Six days post breakup

[Anonymous]

I know it was the right thing, but goddamn the heartache is about to engulf me. I did everything right with her, changed every single about me she wanted changed. I loved this girl with every fiber of my being and when it all came down to it, she never loved me at all. I’m just now finding out the scope of her cheating and it is more than I can bare.
Tomorrow I will be ok, but today I am drowning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know it was the right thing, but goddamn the heartache is about to engulf me. I did everything right with her, changed every single about me she wanted changed. I loved this girl with every fiber of my being and when it all came down to it, she never loved me at all. I’m just now finding out the scope of her cheating and it is more than I can bare.
Tomorrow I will be ok, but today I am drowning.

Never change who you are for a woman. ever. They won’t appreciate it and will come to see it as a weakness. Just be you.

[Anonymous]

Good luck bud. Some people are just manipulative and have no sense of decency.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know it was the right thing, but goddamn the heartache is about to engulf me. I did everything right with her, changed every single about me she wanted changed. I loved this girl with every fiber of my being and when it all came down to it, she never loved me at all. I’m just now finding out the scope of her cheating and it is more than I can bare.
Tomorrow I will be ok, but today I am drowning.

There isn't anything anyone can say to make you feel better. But, if I were you, I'd google "co-dependent personality" (you) and a co-dependent always needs a narcissist (her), so google, "narcissistic personality disorder" and you will be able to put words to all the pain you're feeling. And then you'll get into a CODA group (coda.org) and meet people who're going through exactly what you're going through, and all of this will make perfect sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know it was the right thing, but goddamn the heartache is about to engulf me. I did everything right with her, changed every single about me she wanted changed. I loved this girl with every fiber of my being and when it all came down to it, she never loved me at all. I’m just now finding out the scope of her cheating and it is more than I can bare.
Tomorrow I will be ok, but today I am drowning.

There isn't anything anyone can say to make you feel better. But, if I were you, I'd google "co-dependent personality" (you) and a co-dependent always needs a narcissist (her), so google, "narcissistic personality disorder" and you will be able to put words to all the pain you're feeling. And then you'll get into a CODA group (coda.org) and meet people who're going through exactly what you're going through, and all of this will make perfect sense.

OP here and that’s a good idea. I’ll look for a CODA group near me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know it was the right thing, but goddamn the heartache is about to engulf me. I did everything right with her, changed every single about me she wanted changed. I loved this girl with every fiber of my being and when it all came down to it, she never loved me at all. I’m just now finding out the scope of her cheating and it is more than I can bare.
Tomorrow I will be ok, but today I am drowning.

There isn't anything anyone can say to make you feel better. But, if I were you, I'd google "co-dependent personality" (you) and a co-dependent always needs a narcissist (her), so google, "narcissistic personality disorder" and you will be able to put words to all the pain you're feeling. And then you'll get into a CODA group (coda.org) and meet people who're going through exactly what you're going through, and all of this will make perfect sense.

OP here and that’s a good idea. I’ll look for a CODA group near me.

((hugs))

[Anonymous]

No quicker way to get over her and end the hurt than getting with another woman. Forget therapy and "fixing you first." You're a man and you deserve better.

[Anonymous]

Uff. Went through a breakup a few months ago and the first few weeks - hell, the first month - were ROUGH. Serenity prayer and take good care of yourself. Hugs.

[Anonymous]

This shall pass...best revenge is to feel better~

[Anonymous]

Men marry women hoping they won't change while women marry men with a plan to change them. It appears she was going to change you before marriage and decided she didn't like what she had created.

[Anonymous]

Good luck! It’s so hard but it does it better. I was dumped out of the blue by my bf of 5 yrs. I was devastated, took about 5 months to not cry. But everyday the pain got a little less and one day I realized I hadn’t thought it of him in a month. My next serious relationship was my DH. I’m so happy about that breakup now but at the time it felt like my world was ending. That was 13 years ago and I still remember that pain. A broken heart can heal it just takes time.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, OP. You WILL feel better. I know it doesn’t feel that way, but you will.

PP who said never change for a partner is right. Hang in there.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry op. Join a gym. Maybe start going to kickboxing or hot yoga. I went every evening for a few weeks and it helped immensely.

[Anonymous]

Doesn't knowing that she cheated on you make it easier? She's a terrible person. You deserve better. You dodged a bullet. Onward and upward.

[Anonymous]

When you finally do meet the person who is right for you, you are going to look back at how much you had to compromise with everyone else and you'll be shocked in wonder at why you ever did it.

Hang in there, OP. Most of what you are feeling right now is loneliness. Take comfort in your friends.