Six days post breakup

[Anonymous]

You don’t miss her, you miss the idea of her. You never knew the real her until the end. The real her is a lying cheating manipulator.

Mourn the women you thought she was. But don’t miss her.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Today has been the worst day so far. I reached out to her twice, and got silence. I hate what a sniveling pansy I’ve become over this girl.

[Anonymous]

I hope you are starting to realize that this was not a good, healthy relationship, and it certainly was not love. She is doing the right thing with the no contact, trust me, best thing for her but also best for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Today has been the worst day so far. I reached out to her twice, and got silence. I hate what a sniveling pansy I’ve become over this girl.

Yes. As a guy, you do come off as a sniveling pansy. F××k the hugs you're getting on here. Sack up and say you don't deserve this shit and move on. I've been there, and I look back on that period of my life with disdain. I wasn't being a man. And no amount of trying to get sympathy from people changed that. Just stop acting pathetic, and you'll be more likely to move on successfully.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Today has been the worst day so far. I reached out to her twice, and got silence. I hate what a sniveling pansy I’ve become over this girl.

Yes. As a guy, you do come off as a sniveling pansy. F××k the hugs you're getting on here. Sack up and say you don't deserve this shit and move on. I've been there, and I look back on that period of my life with disdain. I wasn't being a man. And no amount of trying to get sympathy from people changed that. Just stop acting pathetic, and you'll be more likely to move on successfully.

OP here. I am not a guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men marry women hoping they won't change while women marry men with a plan to change them. It appears she was going to change you before marriage and decided she didn't like what she had created.

Some of us marry guys, don’t try to change them and are in awe at what they become.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Today has been the worst day so far. I reached out to her twice, and got silence. I hate what a sniveling pansy I’ve become over this girl.

Yes. As a guy, you do come off as a sniveling pansy. F××k the hugs you're getting on here. Sack up and say you don't deserve this shit and move on. I've been there, and I look back on that period of my life with disdain. I wasn't being a man. And no amount of trying to get sympathy from people changed that. Just stop acting pathetic, and you'll be more likely to move on successfully.

OP here. I am not a guy.

Is she allowed to be a sniveling pansy now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Today has been the worst day so far. I reached out to her twice, and got silence. I hate what a sniveling pansy I’ve become over this girl.

You reached out to her twice?? Find better things to do - like pick your nose, go for a jog, anvil maybe? Anything but ‘reaching out to her’.
Come on - labia up here and act like a woman!

[Anonymous]

I love DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Today has been the worst day so far. I reached out to her twice, and got silence. I hate what a sniveling pansy I’ve become over this girl.

You reached out to her twice?? Find better things to do - like pick your nose, go for a jog, anvil maybe? Anything but ‘reaching out to her’.
Come on - labia up here and act like a woman!

I'm the guy who above said "sack up.“ Given that you're not a guy, " labia up" is more apt. I guess PP was being a bit sarcastic, but the general point stands - believe in yourself and your worth and stop sniveling for another. It's just not attractive and will only make you feel worse about yourself. (I do acknowledge my own, inaccurate gender assumptions, but don't think that detracts from my advice more generally.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Doesn't knowing that she cheated on you make it easier? She's a terrible person. You deserve better. You dodged a bullet. Onward and upward.

I disagree that knowing someone cheated on you makes a break-up easier.
For me it makes things a million times worse.

I feel betrayed, deceived, had and like a stupid fool.
Plus it makes me much angrier too!

[Anonymous]

Google borderline personality disorder also. Read other people's stories. It gets better. Don't change. They won't respect it. She will cheat on everyone she dates

[Anonymous]

Be happy you're rid of her trashy self and get some self respect. Do you really want to be with someone who cheated on you? You deserve better than this.

[Anonymous]

Consider yourself lucky!! You dodged a lifetime of misery.