Hardy middle school .... question about the student racial make-up.

[Anonymous]

It seems like you're not allowed to talk about this stuff without being called a racist. So flame away, I guess.

My kid is going into 6th grade. Hardy is mostly black kids, some hispanic, and a few whites.

1. If you have an Asian kid, are you okay with the racial makeup of the school?
2. If you have a white kid are you okay with the racial make up of the school?

My kids are both asian and white. Dh is Asian. One dd looks Asian and one dd looks white. I'm more worried about my white kid at Hardy than my Asian kid. Weird to comment that way, but easier short-hand.

[Anonymous]

Ask if your kid can shadow for a day. Visit yourself. This is a personal thing.

Different people are going to be comfortable in different situations.

[Anonymous]

My white kid is perfectly happy and comfortable in 6th grade. She has white friends and African-American friends. They all hang out together and are nice kids.

[Anonymous]

my question would be more - are their kids like mine there. But "like mine" doesn't mean race. If your kid is preppy - are their enough preppy kids for him to find a couple good friends. If your kid loves sports, will he have a cohort. If you kid has no interest in sports but likes science fiction, are there several others.

Go look and see. Send kid on a shadow day.

If you've raised your kid right, they won't care about the race of the other kids, but they will care about kids like them (and I don't mean just common interests - I mean types).

[Anonymous]

White family and we're fine with it. I went to public schools that were 30% white and it wasn't a big deal.

[Anonymous]

I'd watch out with Hardy, OP. My own Asian kids have been subjected to occasional crappy treatment at a mostly white DCPS elementary WotP. Half a dozen AA kids have pulled on the corner of their eyes to make fun of my children's "slanty" eyes repeatedly, and unkindly mimicked them speaking the Asian language we speak at home. The school handled the situation well and the bullying has mostly stopped. But we're not going to touch any DC public school that's mostly AA for MS or HS. The reality is that there's a good deal of jealously of high-achieving Asian immigrant students in low SES AA circles in this city. You can flame away at OP and this PP without changing that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd watch out with Hardy, OP. My own Asian kids have been subjected to occasional crappy treatment at a mostly white DCPS elementary WotP. Half a dozen AA kids have pulled on the corner of their eyes to make fun of my children's "slanty" eyes repeatedly, and unkindly mimicked them speaking the Asian language we speak at home. The school handled the situation well and the bullying has mostly stopped. But we're not going to touch any DC public school that's mostly AA for MS or HS. The reality is that there's a good deal of jealously of high-achieving Asian immigrant students in low SES AA circles in this city. You can flame away at OP and this PP without changing that.

Was it AAs who passed the Chinese Exclusion Act? No, you're not racist, you're more of a bigot.

[Anonymous]

The offending PP is more of a realist. OP might want to take note.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The offending PP is more of a realist. OP might want to take note.

What—that kids will engage in poor behaviors in elementary school? Guess what? All kids misbehave. Sounds like the school handled it, just like the staff at Hardy would. If OP or anyone is looking for a perfect school where no one behaves badly, good luck because it doesn’t exist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd watch out with Hardy, OP. My own Asian kids have been subjected to occasional crappy treatment at a mostly white DCPS elementary WotP. Half a dozen AA kids have pulled on the corner of their eyes to make fun of my children's "slanty" eyes repeatedly, and unkindly mimicked them speaking the Asian language we speak at home. The school handled the situation well and the bullying has mostly stopped. But we're not going to touch any DC public school that's mostly AA for MS or HS. The reality is that there's a good deal of jealously of high-achieving Asian immigrant students in low SES AA circles in this city. You can flame away at OP and this PP without changing that.

DC's late Mayor for Life was very publicly racist concerning Asians. He didn't exactly set an example of moral leadership on this, or on much else.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'd watch out with Hardy, OP. My own Asian kids have been subjected to occasional crappy treatment at a mostly white DCPS elementary WotP. Half a dozen AA kids have pulled on the corner of their eyes to make fun of my children's "slanty" eyes repeatedly, and unkindly mimicked them speaking the Asian language we speak at home. The school handled the situation well and the bullying has mostly stopped. But we're not going to touch any DC public school that's mostly AA for MS or HS. The reality is that there's a good deal of jealously of high-achieving Asian immigrant students in low SES AA circles in this city. You can flame away at OP and this PP without changing that.

DC's late Mayor for Life was very publicly racist concerning Asians. He didn't exactly set an example of moral leadership on this, or on much else.

And YOUR president is doing a piss poor job in this area as well.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'd watch out with Hardy, OP. My own Asian kids have been subjected to occasional crappy treatment at a mostly white DCPS elementary WotP. Half a dozen AA kids have pulled on the corner of their eyes to make fun of my children's "slanty" eyes repeatedly, and unkindly mimicked them speaking the Asian language we speak at home. The school handled the situation well and the bullying has mostly stopped. But we're not going to touch any DC public school that's mostly AA for MS or HS. The reality is that there's a good deal of jealously of high-achieving Asian immigrant students in low SES AA circles in this city. You can flame away at OP and this PP without changing that.

DC's late Mayor for Life was very publicly racist concerning Asians. He didn't exactly set an example of moral leadership on this, or on much else.

Really? You're bringing Marion Barry into the conversation? He died 3 years ago and last served as mayor in 1999, well before any student currently in Hardy MS was even born. What exactly is your point in mentioning him?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd watch out with Hardy, OP. My own Asian kids have been subjected to occasional crappy treatment at a mostly white DCPS elementary WotP. Half a dozen AA kids have pulled on the corner of their eyes to make fun of my children's "slanty" eyes repeatedly, and unkindly mimicked them speaking the Asian language we speak at home. The school handled the situation well and the bullying has mostly stopped. But we're not going to touch any DC public school that's mostly AA for MS or HS. The reality is that there's a good deal of jealously of high-achieving Asian immigrant students in low SES AA circles in this city. You can flame away at OP and this PP without changing that.

I'm sure it happened and I can't promise you that my white kid, who I think I've taught better, wouldn't be the one also doing it one day.
Are you sure your kid hasn't done anything to offend anybody? What did she/he thought when group on AAs did that? Could she/he have said her/his thoughts out loud?
"Jealously"? I've never even seen high-achieving Asians and low SES AA in the same circle. Ditto if it were the other way around. Those 2 SESs are not competitors. It's just kids acting like kids. The worst part, you the grown-up, don't even see that you are doing the same thing the kids did.
It was kids active badly and in need of guidance. Not sure why you bring up their race. Maybe somebody has done it to them and they are acting out. I don't expect you to think that far or even think. Leave your feelings at home and talk to your children about blaming a whole race based on your feelings.

[Anonymous]

My son gets called names like cracker or referenced as white boy but it doesn’t bother him. He has friends of all races there. He said there is nothing to worry about. He doesn’t let things bother him though. His friends parents are wanting to take their son out of school though because of things like that. My daughter has no terrible issues at hardy either and she is blonde haired and blue eyed. She has said that she has had trouble making friends though, unfortunately.

[Anonymous]

My kid attended Hardy back over a decade ago when the student body was 1/3 white. Don't know what it is today. I know the school expanded somewhat and so that may have changed. She didn't have a problem. It was also a really good experience for her to know what it's like to be in the numerical minority. And she ended up not being afraid to be the only white person in a room - which is not something I learned growing up in small town America.

If you send your kids and they end up being harassed, I'd definitely look into moving them but I wouldn't assume up front that they will be harassed.