Would you Date Someone If.

[Anonymous]

You found out they slept with a friend of yours before knowing you? This is my current situation. My new girlfriend met a group of my friends for the first time this past weekend. She was new to the area, and met one of my friends ( close by not best friends) while at a bar. They went on a couple dates and slept together, but nothing came out of it. We met about a month later online. We have met right around the new year. I feel like I might catch some crap for it, but I really like her and want to see where this goes.

[Anonymous]

I don't think so.

[Anonymous]

Tough. Is your friend a long one or are you guys in or just right out of college and likely to move away. Furthermore can he find ways to make fun of her and use it against you?

[Anonymous]

Your past is your past. It shouldn't matter. I slept with a co-worker of my husband's before my husband and I started dating. I didn't matter at all to him.

[Anonymous]

I don't think that's a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tough. Is your friend a long one or are you guys in or just right out of college and likely to move away. Furthermore can he find ways to make fun of her and use it against you?

We are all in our early to mid-30’s. The particular friend is an acquaintance of the group. We all hang out together but I’ve never hung out with him solo. They only had sex once. He has a girlfriend now. She told me that night that she recognized him and he said the same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You found out they slept with a friend of yours before knowing you? This is my current situation. My new girlfriend met a group of my friends for the first time this past weekend. She was new to the area, and met one of my friends ( close by not best friends) while at a bar. They went on a couple dates and slept together, but nothing came out of it. We met about a month later online. We have met right around the new year. I feel like I might catch some crap for it, but I really like her and want to see where this goes.

I don't see a problem with it. That type of thing happened a lot in college. Your universe is a bit bigger now, so it might feel a little weird. But it's really not a big deal.

[Anonymous]

No, I wouldn't. But, that doesn't mean you shouldn't pursue her.

[Anonymous]

I would, I don't think it's a terribly big deal. Hopefully your friends are mature.

[Anonymous]

Not a big deal.

[Anonymous]

It’s only sex

[Anonymous]

I don’t see a problem at all. It is coincidence. So what? Not a big deal.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't care at all. Adults have pasts.

[Anonymous]

What is "the new year?" You mean you have been dating for a month or a year?
Frankly, it would bother me if my boyfriend had slept with a friend.

[Anonymous]

Why is it a big deal to you?