Why does no one acknowledge how overworked teachers are?

[Anonymous]

It sounds like a better question is what are teachers/schools NOT expected to do for kids these days?

Schools need to teach them everything, apparently including sex and also “social emotional learning” like empathy and personal management, they need to feed the kids and in many cases clothe them. And they need to screen for abuse. What do parents do except provide a bed to sleep on?

Why don’t we just build a bunch of institutions that we put kids in at birth and force parents to prove that they’re decent parents before they’re allowed to take the kids out of there?? It sounds like most kids would be better off that way because some parents apparently do NOTHING for their kids. Even when we the taxpayers give them money for having those kids. I’d rather just give the money towards boarding schools and no more rent assistance or anything for those “parents”.

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Anonymous wrote:As a teacher it has become clear to me the SEL is basically just trying to teach kids how behave in public and problem solve. These were skills kids were supposed to learn from parents but it just seems like a significant number of parents have dropped the ball. School is treated as daycare by a lot of the same parents who don’t want to deal with their own kids.

I always wondered what the new obsession with SEL is about. This explains it though. Parents just aren’t parenting anymore. How sad.

My kid is in an amazing SEL school, and the result is fantastic for teachers, students, parents and administration. Removes so much dysfunction

As would parents actually parenting... but let's keep dumping more on the teachers, seems to be working out well

It’s easier to teach SEL to 20 kids than to deal with 20 families and all their dysfunction, especially if the teacher is also dysfunctional. Much easier

How effective is a 'dysfunctional' teacher going to be in teaching SEL to 20+ children?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like a better question is what are teachers/schools NOT expected to do for kids these days?

Schools need to teach them everything, apparently including sex and also “social emotional learning” like empathy and personal management, they need to feed the kids and in many cases clothe them. And they need to screen for abuse. What do parents do except provide a bed to sleep on?

Why don’t we just build a bunch of institutions that we put kids in at birth and force parents to prove that they’re decent parents before they’re allowed to take the kids out of there?? It sounds like most kids would be better off that way because some parents apparently do NOTHING for their kids. Even when we the taxpayers give them money for having those kids. I’d rather just give the money towards boarding schools and no more rent assistance or anything for those “parents”.

Former teacher and +1000... and actually a lot of these parents you describe do not fit the (physical/socioeconomic) profile one might assume. Obviously exaggerating but it's gotten completely ridiculous with the lack of parental responsibility, including from middle and UMC parents

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Anonymous wrote:As a teacher it has become clear to me the SEL is basically just trying to teach kids how behave in public and problem solve. These were skills kids were supposed to learn from parents but it just seems like a significant number of parents have dropped the ball. School is treated as daycare by a lot of the same parents who don’t want to deal with their own kids.

I always wondered what the new obsession with SEL is about. This explains it though. Parents just aren’t parenting anymore. How sad.

My kid is in an amazing SEL school, and the result is fantastic for teachers, students, parents and administration. Removes so much dysfunction

As would parents actually parenting... but let's keep dumping more on the teachers, seems to be working out well

It’s easier to teach SEL to 20 kids than to deal with 20 families and all their dysfunction, especially if the teacher is also dysfunctional. Much easier

How effective is a 'dysfunctional' teacher going to be in teaching SEL to 20+ children?

TCIT training is designed to smooth out dysfunctional practices

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds like a better question is what are teachers/schools NOT expected to do for kids these days?

Schools need to teach them everything, apparently including sex and also “social emotional learning” like empathy and personal management, they need to feed the kids and in many cases clothe them. And they need to screen for abuse. What do parents do except provide a bed to sleep on?

Why don’t we just build a bunch of institutions that we put kids in at birth and force parents to prove that they’re decent parents before they’re allowed to take the kids out of there?? It sounds like most kids would be better off that way because some parents apparently do NOTHING for their kids. Even when we the taxpayers give them money for having those kids. I’d rather just give the money towards boarding schools and no more rent assistance or anything for those “parents”.

Former teacher and +1000... and actually a lot of these parents you describe do not fit the (physical/socioeconomic) profile one might assume. Obviously exaggerating but it's gotten completely ridiculous with the lack of parental responsibility, including from middle and UMC parents

+1. There’s a lot of underparenting going on across all SES groups.

[Anonymous]

People who hate children and don't understand what they are like shouldn't be teaching.

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Anonymous wrote:As a teacher it has become clear to me the SEL is basically just trying to teach kids how behave in public and problem solve. These were skills kids were supposed to learn from parents but it just seems like a significant number of parents have dropped the ball. School is treated as daycare by a lot of the same parents who don’t want to deal with their own kids.

I always wondered what the new obsession with SEL is about. This explains it though. Parents just aren’t parenting anymore. How sad.

My kid is in an amazing SEL school, and the result is fantastic for teachers, students, parents and administration. Removes so much dysfunction

As would parents actually parenting... but let's keep dumping more on the teachers, seems to be working out well

It’s easier to teach SEL to 20 kids than to deal with 20 families and all their dysfunction, especially if the teacher is also dysfunctional. Much easier

Well, I do think I'm a pretty decent parent, but my kids benefited tremendously from SEL. My kids are just more likely to accept advice and guidance without a struggle from teachers, so when it was time for the whole class to sit down and learn belly breathing, they learned it in kindergarten and now, at ages 14 and 11, they still do it. It's not just for dysfunctional families.

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Anonymous wrote:People who hate children and don't understand what they are like shouldn't be teaching.

I do agree but at the same time I'd rather have a teacher who hates children in a classroom with well-behaved kids than a teacher who loves children in a classroom with kids who are off the wall. My son's teacher is fine but the students are not and it's extremely stressful for him.

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Anonymous wrote:If you think teaching is easy be a sub for one day in public American schools and you will be eaten alive as kids treat you like Jackie Robinson on his first game ever in MLB throwing trash and cussing you out as you lose your voice trying to talk over them. Then your principal comes in and berates you for being terrible at your job and being stupid for not being able to control students. It's horrible horrible horrible. The helplessness and zero life control give teachers pstd.

My job has meetings in the middle of the night occasionally. I survived.

Given the choice, I’ll take middle-of-the-night meetings any day over teaching. You also mention they happen “occasionally,” whereas the stress/panic of teaching happens all day, every day.

Except you’re not teaching all day, every day during the year, are you? Look, I get it, teaching is hard and maybe you don’t like your career decision. That’s totally ok. But wild exaggerations like that don’t help. We all know your get massive amounts of time off. You’re up at night in the middle of July or on Christmas Eve with night terrors about something that happened at work that day? That actually is some people’s reality. So let’s at least try to have some perspective.

This is why DCUM is so toxic. Guess what? I go to therapy because of teaching. I have been for years. This job can be so abusive and can break the toughest of people. Also: I am always working. ALWAYS. If I’m not at work, I’m at home prepping for work. That’s on weekends. That’s over the summer.

You can tell me to gain perspective, and I’m going to ask the same of you. There’s a reason DCUM is filled with threads like this one. It’s because teaching is HARD, and it’s only those who haven’t tried it who think otherwise.

I am a career changer. I came from a tough corporate job. It was a breeze compared to what I do now.

[Anonymous]

My kids are in school from 8-5. They get home at 5:30, then go to bed at 8. They spend far more hours in school than at home. We put them in private so that they could develop into good, well-rounded people in spite of not a lot of time with parents and almost no friend-time with parents. They’re doing great. I do think public school kids have parents who have to work just as long hours. Those kids would benefit from stronger all-around curriculums too.

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Anonymous wrote:I think this video is an important reminder for parents and administrators

https://fb.watch/hcxdi1BUVj/?mibextid=0LFGlp

I think most of us would practically worship a teacher like this woman. It’s the SB and administrators tearing good teachers down and forcing them out of our classrooms.

[Anonymous]

This generation of teachers is the most under-worked and over-entitled ever.

In the 1970s my mother would carry bags of books home with her every single night and sit up grading her HS kids French homework, putting in corrections and encouragement and grades. Every single night.

Homework just doesn't exist on that level any more. You'r'e lucky if the teacher checks its been done, but they don't engage with it at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People who hate children and don't understand what they are like shouldn't be teaching.

I agree, but I think there would be far fewer teachers available if everyone stuck to that. Sometimes years of teaching make people hate kids. Depends on the school system and the quality of students and parents. Public schools have much more job protection via the unions, but the quality of students is so variable...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This generation of teachers is the most under-worked and over-entitled ever.

In the 1970s my mother would carry bags of books home with her every single night and sit up grading her HS kids French homework, putting in corrections and encouragement and grades. Every single night.

Homework just doesn't exist on that level any more. You'r'e lucky if the teacher checks its been done, but they don't engage with it at all.

I do this. Every single night. I work every Saturday. Every Sunday. I am comfortable estimating I work 70 hours at least one week a month and never under 60. My coworkers are quitting because of the workload and I’m seriously considering it.

I’m underworked and over-entitled?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This generation of teachers is the most under-worked and over-entitled ever.

In the 1970s my mother would carry bags of books home with her every single night and sit up grading her HS kids French homework, putting in corrections and encouragement and grades. Every single night.

Homework just doesn't exist on that level any more. You'r'e lucky if the teacher checks its been done, but they don't engage with it at all.

I do this. Every single night. I work every Saturday. Every Sunday. I am comfortable estimating I work 70 hours at least one week a month and never under 60. My coworkers are quitting because of the workload and I’m seriously considering it.

I’m underworked and over-entitled?

Most teachers are not grading. It’s auto grade on the computer and if teachers review it it’s a grade and no comments.