Comment from new guy about my hips- what does this mean?

[Anonymous]

Going thru a divorce and have not been with anyone except my ex since having children. I am not fat (size 2/4) but curvy. I was having dinner with a guy that I’m into and we were talking about the gym. I said that I don’t have time to work out and he asked how I could be so thin. I laughed and said well I’m not THAT thin, I have big hips! A week later we were in bed for the first time and he saw me naked. He said “You’re right, you DO have hips!” And laughed. The way he said it made it sound like a positive, but I am obviously sensitive about my body and I keep replaying that in my head. I don’t think that’s really a compliment, lol. Just wondering what others thoughts are. Does he think I’m fat?

[Anonymous]

It means exactly what he said, that you have wide hips. It's not a negative. Stop being insecure, it'll get annoying, fast.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If he is having sex with you, then he likely wouldn't have meant it in a negative way. If he thought you were actually fat (and just happy to be getting some) then he would have shut up. But since he was bold enough to say "you have hips" I think you can confidently assume he meant "you have [delightfully sexy] hips."

I am not making this theory up to make you feel good. I am a divorced dad and I have been there done that and I can't imagine other men being much different. In other words, if it turns out the girl looks unattractive naked what's the point in say anything! But if you think she's sexy you tell her, to let her know she is appreciated and that maybe more frequently she will let you enter her and achieve orgasm! Which of course is the goal of the man. And is easier if the girl is into you (and you get her into you by compliments and not backhanded criticism."

Get it?

Thanks for your advice! I appreciate that! I hope you are right

[Anonymous]

A curvy girl with substantial hips and a big curve in from hip to waist just drives me wild. I have to think the guy was very happy with what he saw.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It means exactly what he said, that you have wide hips. It's not a negative. Stop being insecure, it'll get annoying, fast.

who said wide? It does NOT mean you have wide hips! It means you are not unattractively straight and he likes your hips. That's it.

[Anonymous]

+1 on he was happy with what he saw

[Anonymous]

Most men like shapely hips, round booties and nice breasts. I wouldn't worry about it if I were you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It means exactly what he said, that you have wide hips. It's not a negative. Stop being insecure, it'll get annoying, fast.

who said wide? It does NOT mean you have wide hips! It means you are not unattractively straight and he likes your hips. That's it.

Ignore the wide poster. You’re a 2/4 you are not wide.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It means exactly what he said, that you have wide hips. It's not a negative. [b]Stop being insecure, it'll get annoying, fast.

+1 this

[Anonymous]

That was rude of him

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That was rude of him

Yes, men should never talk or tell us what they like.

[Anonymous]

Guy here: it was intended as a compliment, don't overthink it.

Most likely he was trying to call attention to the fact that your hips are discernibly wider than your waist. Meaning, you're not fat. He likes this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He said “You’re right, you DO have hips!” And laughed. The way he said it made it sound like a positive

"You DO have hips!"=compliment
"You DO have wide hips!"=not a compliment, usually

He was complimenting you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Going thru a divorce and have not been with anyone except my ex since having children. I am not fat (size 2/4) but curvy. I was having dinner with a guy that I’m into and we were talking about the gym. I said that I don’t have time to work out and he asked how I could be so thin. I laughed and said well I’m not THAT thin, I have big hips! A week later we were in bed for the first time and he saw me naked. He said “You’re right, you DO have hips!” And laughed. The way he said it made it sound like a positive, but I am obviously sensitive about my body and I keep replaying that in my head. I don’t think that’s really a compliment, lol. Just wondering what others thoughts are. Does he think I’m fat?

Neurotic female insecurities such as this lead to the most agonizing arguments, headaches, and drama about NOTHING!!
My condolences to the guy.

[Anonymous]

His anaconda don't want none unless you got buns, hon.