Overreacting?

[Anonymous]

One of my “friends” that has a daughter that goes to my daughter’s school always talks to me when I pick my daughter up from school and we’ve hung out a few times at her place. However, she’s also really friendly with DH and I’m starting to get suspicious of her. She walks whatever way that he’s walking, even if it’s out of her way and even offered to drive him home from the school today. I’m a slightly jealous person so am I being jealous? Is she just being nice? I just feel that personally, if she had a husband, I would smile and say hi but I would never walk with him or offer to drive him anywhere...but that’s just me.

[Anonymous]

You seem very crazy from just this brief glimpse into your mind. Why is friends in air quotes -- you're friendly and have hung out at her house. The fact that she's also friendly to your husband makes her friendship suspect? Calm tf down, lady.

[Anonymous]

What do you mean by "really friendly with DH"? Is she openly flirting with him? There's a difference between being friendly and flirting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do you mean by "really friendly with DH"? Is she openly flirting with him? There's a difference between being friendly and flirting.

She doesn’t talk to any other men that I have witnessed. He says they just talk casually but has asked him about our relationship a few times (how long we’ve been together etc.) and she always brings him up in our conversations. She also always asks why he didn’t come along whenever we hangout.

[Anonymous]

I would be cautious, but I generally am with female friends.

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure if overreacting is the right word. My husband used to have a co-worker that I didn't really like or trust, but I also kind of doubted my intuition for a bit because she was prettier than me so I thought maybe I was just jealous. However, once it got to the point where she was wanting to go to lunch with him a lot and texting several times a day, I told him how I felt. I said it's not that I don't trust him, but I don't trust her. He said he heard me and he would be on the look out. Turns out I was right, she put her hand on his leg one time at lunch (in a totally sexual way, not in an innocent, oh you're funny, slap on the leg kind of way).

So make sure your husband knows how you feel, and keep your eyes and ears open. Other woman can suck sometimes.

[Anonymous]

Listen to your intuition and keep an eye on things.

[Anonymous]

What's the big deal if she is flirting with your husband, honestly? If someone flirts with me or my husband we just get an ego boost and keep it moving. She can't make him cheat on you.

[Anonymous]

Why would she offer him a ride home from school? Did he not drive? And yes, the fact that she seems so interested in your relationship and that she goes out of her way to cross paths with him is not cool at all. She's fishing. Make sure you keep your hook baited with much better bait. If she's using minnows, you use shark.

[Anonymous]

Why is she your “friend”? Asking why your DH didn’t come along when you’ve hung out with her sounds like situation that happens in high school when some girl you don’t know well wants to come over your house and asks after your brother. Why would you be friends with someone using you to be friends with someone else - in this case your DH. Maybe she is the type of person that likes to have male friends, maybe your DH’s job/career has her interests (I’ve seen people low-key social climb at our kids’s school), maybe it is sexual interest. Whatever the reason, why are you wasting your time on a friendships with someone that isn’t being a good friend? Your kids know each other so being cordial and friendly is all that is needed.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like she is more his friend than yours. Or would like to be. Since you are not friends but just moms of kids in the same school, what makes you think she is more your friend? Sounds just the opposite. Does she want something else? Watch her with your DH in person, women always know. I always trust my instinct, always.

[Anonymous]

Your women’s intuition is rarely, if ever wrong.

I think she has a thing for your husband.
And she may primarily be socializing w/you just to find out more about him.

I smell a rat.

If you 100% trust your husband, then you have nothing to worry about here.

But if you do not, then watch this woman like a hawk.

It will be just a matter of time before she propositions your spouse.
This woman could care less about you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your women’s intuition is rarely, if ever wrong.

I think she has a thing for your husband.
And she may primarily be socializing w/you just to find out more about him.

I smell a rat.

If you 100% trust your husband, then you have nothing to worry about here.

But if you do not, then watch this woman like a hawk.

It will be just a matter of time before she propositions your spouse.
This woman could care less about you.

I’m mad right now!

I brought it up with him and he seemed happy about it. He pretty much said, “you think so??” Then it turned into me explaining why I think she’s trouble , I told him about all her ex boyfriends she was telling me about and he started asking why she isn’t with her ex anymore! Wow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be cautious, but I generally am with female friends.

This is such a sad way to live your life. Why have friends at all?

[Anonymous]

OP, maybe he's flattered to get a little attention? It's flattering to think that someone might think you're a catch.

She might have a little crush on your husband. Hopefully she'll realize she's being borderline inappropriate and stop before it goes further.