What time do you wake up in the morning?
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Anonymous
SAHM here in a disagreement with my husband. I tend to get up at 7am when our toddler gets up. He keep selling me that no adults sleep in that late. Everyone, in his mind, is up getting started before their kids. What time do you get up? Week days different from weekends? He holds to this for every day of the week - I should never sleep in until 7am or I'm lazy. The end. 
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Anonymous
| I get up with the toddler and not a minute before (6:39-7) And i WOH. She stirs and makes a noise and I get up and get her milk and we get ready together. I shower at night. I need 8 hrs of sleep to function (somehow I managed the newborn phase on adrenaline). Dh is a lark and gets up st 5 and works out and goes to work early. He’s up early on weekends and will get up with dd and change and dress her to give me another 15 min because he’s sweet. He takes her out for bagelsnon Sunday’s so I can sleep for another hour or two because the two of them are morning people and I’m not. I did handle all night feeds after 2 weeks and sat with her if anything since there was no danger of me passing out at 1 am unlike him. We figure out what each one of us is best at and make that work for our marriage. |
Anonymous
| On work days I have to get up at 5 so on days off I am generally awake in bed between 5-6am. I don't get up tho until 7/730 when my kid wakes up. If i get up before she does, so do our 2 large dogs, who go rampaging down the stairs waking her up in the process. So I stay quietly in bed until she is awake....sometimes on fb or dcum. |
Anonymous
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What time does HE get up?
I’m a SAHM. DH and I get up at 8 with the kids (we’re not early morning people). Things would definitely be smoother if we got up before them, but DH and I like staying up late together. I was recently away for a few days and DH got up before them to make breakfast. He reported that it was an improvement. |
Anonymous
| Wow, that sucks. I would be pissed off if my husband insinuated that I was lazy! |
Anonymous
| Your husband sounds like a controlling asshole. Adults do not criticize when other adults wake up. As long as your child’s needs are met who cares? Also on weekends you should trade off and each get a sleep on day anyway. Being a SAHM doesn’t mean you work 24/7 while he gets weekends off. |
Anonymous
| He sounds terrible. |
Anonymous
| I am normally up no later than 6, work at home till 7:30 or so, then workout and at the office around 10 |
Anonymous
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If you're a SAHM, why shouldn't you get up when your child gets up? You don't have to rush out in the morning... what does your DH think you should be doing before 7 am? He sounds like a nut and I'd tell him where he could go.
I get up at 5:45. I'm a teacher and ruled by early hours. But if I had my "druthers" I'd get up around 8:30 and go to bed at 1 am. Darn. |
Anonymous
| I get up between 5:30 and 6. I like the quiet time before my DH and kids fire up at 6:30-7. |
Anonymous
| Is your husband from a rural area? I love farmers in general, but there is this farmer mentality that sleeping in is evil and lazy, and it drives me crazy. Getting up early is no more virtuous than staying up late. Obviously, I'm a night owl. I'm my most productive late at night, and I'm not great in the morning. I have family members who get up at dawn, and they can't keep their eyes open past 9:00 pm. It really puts a damper on evening activities. I, on the other hand, have no problem getting up early when I need to. They sleep a lot more than I do, so I used to get annoyed when they looked askance at me because I "slept in." I just ignore it now. |
Anonymous
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The issue isn’t what time do adults wake up, it’s whether it’s reasonable for a spouse to criticize the other spouse’s sleeping schedule. The answer is no.
It’s not like you are lounging in bed until 11 am, eating Cheetos and watching The View. You’re waking up at a reasonable hour. Does your DH criticize or question you on other things, too? |
Anonymous
| He sounds like a controlling jerk. I work part time. I get up at 7:30 and start to get ready and get my son up at 8-8:30. We leave at 9. Weekends we sleep in. |
Anonymous
| A friend of mine’s mom didn’t get up until after they all left for school. I think that is lazy. Getting up 7am is fine. |
Anonymous
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I’m up at 7, but I snooze until 7:10. From there I get up and have coffee until I wake my DD at 7:35 for school.
On weekends, I get up when I’m woken by DD: anywhere from 8ish-9ish, typically. |