DH responds hmmm to everything

[Anonymous]

When I say hmm or text hmm it gives some time for me to think but DH basically responds hmm to everything. I will tell him something and then expect empathy and instead he hmm's me. He will also say sorry I was busy so I didn't have time to focus. How hard is it to text sorry instead of hmm. I know this sounds a little stupid but I needed to vent.

[Anonymous]

That's learned behavior. I'm guessing in the past if he's said more than "hmmm" you've made it clear it was the wrong response.

[Anonymous]

hmmmmmm... that's odd. hmmmmmmm...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's learned behaviour. I'm guessing in the past if he's said more than "hmmm" you've made it clear it was the wrong response.

I have told him it bothers me and he always apologizes but keeps doing the same thing. This will be a conversation with him for example:

ME: My dad may fly in next weekend to visit us
DH: Hmmm

ME: I sent you an email with a car I like. Do you like the car?
DH: Hmmm

ME: DD has diarrhoea
DH: Hmmm

ME: Would you like to go to the farmers market or blah blah event Saturday?
DH: Hmmm

Seriously this is not a joke. He hmm's all the time.

[Anonymous]

Does he hmmmm when you are having sex?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does he hmmmm when you are having sex?

NO hahaha thank god

[Anonymous]

It’s a little strange but I don’t see it as any different than an “ok” or “I don’t know.” He probably just doesn’t care all that much about whatever you’re texting him. Aside from the example “do you want to go to X Event” nothing you wrote really requires extensive input.

[Anonymous]

That's his way of telling you to stop boring him with mundane shit. Text him a racy picture of yourself and see if you get a hmmmm.

Btw, if this is your biggest bitch in your marriage, you have it pretty good.

NEXT!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s a little strange but I don’t see it as any different than an “ok” or “I don’t know.” He probably just doesn’t care all that much about whatever you’re texting him. Aside from the example “do you want to go to X Event” nothing you wrote really requires extensive input.

I didn't give good examples but sometimes he will say this when I am clearly upset about something. He could easily say sorry but instead chooses to hmmm me. Maybe I should start doing the something similar to him.

[Anonymous]

Talk to him rather than text. Don't you see him every night and morning? Why are you texting him about stuff like that he's not good at responding? Just stop and talk to him instead. Texting is a poor form of communication.

[Anonymous]

You need to DTMF. My ex always did this. It was so annoying OP. Dump him and never look back. My guy says LOL now and it's so much better. There are plenty of guys out there who do not hmmm!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Talk to him rather than text. Don't you see him every night and morning? Why are you texting him about stuff like that he's not good at responding? Just stop and talk to him instead. Texting is a poor form of communication.

He travels a lot for work so it's not always easy to talk on the phone. We have a young toddler and it makes phone conversations nearly impossible.

[Anonymous]

This is why my wife and I don't have text "conversations."

He's probably saying "hmmm..." instead of saying, "geez I with she would quit pestering me."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Talk to him rather than text. Don't you see him every night and morning? Why are you texting him about stuff like that he's not good at responding? Just stop and talk to him instead. Texting is a poor form of communication.

He travels a lot for work so it's not always easy to talk on the phone. We have a young toddler and it makes phone conversations nearly impossible.

Make time.

Try "Can I call you at 2:00 to go over a few things?"

[Anonymous]

Is he an introvert by chance?