Still getting over ex. He's moved on. Gutted.

[Anonymous]

DCUM, please no snark. Today sucks!

I saw my exes new girlfriend today. I really thought I had moved on but it hit me like a ton of freaking bricks. I am so sad, hurt, upset. I know we all lie during break ups but he had told me he didn't have time for a relationship and wanted to figure it how to be single.

Please give me some support, DCUM. This hurts so much more than I thought it would.

[Anonymous]

This feeling is just something you have to go through. We all do. It's part of the rich human experience. You will learn from this and pass this wisdom on to your children one day. I know it hurts. Big hugs. You'll meet a great guy. Stay positive!

[Anonymous]

Not trying to give you hope, but just because he has a girlfriend doesn’t mean he’s moved on. People get in rebound relationships all the time.

[Anonymous]

Been there, OP. I was convinced I was totally and completely over my ex (who I'd thought was "the love of my life" at one point in time). Then one day my mother told me he was getting married and WHAM! Holy crap, you would have thought we'd just broken up that morning.

Thankfully I bounced back pretty quickly and definitely much quicker than when we initially broke up. There's something about finding out they're with someone new, though, that makes it feel really final.

[Anonymous]

Time helps! Today I saw a really adorable engagement pic my ex has on facebook. A year ago, I would have cried. Today, I was damn that is the cutest pic (kind of annoyed, kind of happy, kind of indifferent).

[Anonymous]

It sucks, I think many of us can relate. Unfort not a lot you can do, but always better if you can turn the pain into something productive.... meaning work out instead of eating ice cream. I found it helpful to keep myself busy, I took up yoga after one tough break up. But, at least for me, some break ups will always cause some pain - but the more you keep your mind off it, the better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not trying to give you hope, but just because he has a girlfriend doesn’t mean he’s moved on. People get in rebound relationships all the time.

This. I am dating someone but still miss the guy who dumped me a couple months ago.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry, OP. This happened to me once. Ex started dating my roommate's best friend. She was awesome, and I was so hurt. He told me he wasn't in a place to be in a relationship.

Fast-forward a few months later to the awesome girl dumping him because he was in no place to be in a relationship, followed by him apologizing to me, telling me his therapist told him he had treated me like crap and agreed with everything I told him when we broke up. So vindicating.

FF a few months after that, a good friend died and I was all alone. He showed up on my doorstep because he had heard and didn't want me to be alone. Held my hand and let me talk about it, let me cry, just sat with me. We became solid friends after that and remain so many years later.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thanks for the encouragement. It's just particularly difficult because I'm here nursing a broken heart and he's in the throes of new love. I know I don't know the full story but I do know that he is seeing someone new which, as a PP mentioned, really makes it feel final.

We live in a very very small town and I'm dreading going out and seeing them over and over and over again. I need to distract myself but dammit. This is hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the encouragement. It's just particularly difficult because I'm here nursing a broken heart and he's in the throes of new love. I know I don't know the full story but I do know that he is seeing someone new which, as a PP mentioned, really makes it feel final.

We live in a very very small town and I'm dreading going out and seeing them over and over and over again. I need to distract myself but dammit. This is hard.

Do you really think having a girlfriend means it's "new love"? Plenty of people date to date, and give each other the bf/gf titles and it really doesn't mean much. That said, this is a feeling I think everyone goes through. Part of the modern human experience, I guess. Eventually, you really will stop caring. Promise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the encouragement. It's just particularly difficult because I'm here nursing a broken heart and he's in the throes of new love. I know I don't know the full story but I do know that he is seeing someone new which, as a PP mentioned, really makes it feel final.

We live in a very very small town and I'm dreading going out and seeing them over and over and over again. I need to distract myself but dammit. This is hard.

Do you really think having a girlfriend means it's "new love"? Plenty of people date to date, and give each other the bf/gf titles and it really doesn't mean much. That said, this is a feeling I think everyone goes through. Part of the modern human experience, I guess. Eventually, you really will stop caring. Promise.

Thanks. I just feel played. We got each other Christmas presents (after the break up) and were in communication, but he totally fell off the face of the planet a couple of weeks ago. Now I know why. I suppose I was holding on to hope that we would reconcile. Clearly, no. Especially not after my lunacy yesterday!

[Anonymous]

Just do the best you can. We have our own problems.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not trying to give you hope, but just because he has a girlfriend doesn’t mean he’s moved on. People get in rebound relationships all the time.

This. I am dating someone but still miss the guy who dumped me a couple months ago.

+1000 My ex's new girlfriend looks a lot like me except not as attractive, educated, not a professional, single mother, etc. I wish him luck.

[Anonymous]

You dumped him and he’s found someone better and you’re mad. Sucks for you, next time appreciate who you have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not trying to give you hope, but just because he has a girlfriend doesn’t mean he’s moved on. People get in rebound relationships all the time.

This. I am dating someone but still miss the guy who dumped me a couple months ago.

+1000 My ex's new girlfriend looks a lot like me except not as attractive, educated, not a professional, single mother, etc. I wish him luck.

Men don’t care about professional careers and education. They want a wife who is good looking, fun to be around with a nice demeanor, funny, has enthusiastic sex and is a good mother.

Chances are she’s just as or more attractive than you and your opinion of yourself doesn’t match the final product, hence why he moved on.