Still getting over ex. He's moved on. Gutted.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I told him off and finally brought the rest of his stuff back to him. It has been liberating because I had been holding out hope for a reconciliation, which he didn't exactly discourage. I told him he's a player and a liar and one day, somebody will hurt him too (he has always been the one to end relationships). Blocked him on every medium, told him to never contact me again. Now I can start fresh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I told him off and finally brought the rest of his stuff back to him. It has been liberating because I had been holding out hope for a reconciliation, which he didn't exactly discourage. I told him he's a player and a liar and one day, somebody will hurt him too (he has always been the one to end relationships). Blocked him on every medium, told him to never contact me again. Now I can start fresh.

Good for you!!! Bookmark this post. Hang onto it. We're routing for you. Come back and find us over the weekend if you need support.

[Anonymous]

I find it sad OP that you specifically asked for no snark & some people chose to dishonor your request.

Do not listen to their cruel responses.
Take everything w/a grain of salt on here.

I have been in your shoes before + the best advice that I can give you is to a). Focus on YOU now. Improve yourself and make sure to take very good care of your physical/emotional/Mental well-being at all times! No exceptions.
Stay away from toxic people and/or situations as you are just too fragile to take any more stress at this time.
b). Be patient. Allow yourself the time needed to fully and properly heal. Do NOT try to get around this. Shortcuts will only prolong your progress tenfold.

There will be that day when it will no longer hurt your heart when thinking of him.
It seems absolutely impossible at this time, but I promise you that day will arrive.

(((((( HUGS ))))))

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find it sad OP that you specifically asked for no snark & some people chose to dishonor your request.

Do not listen to their cruel responses.
Take everything w/a grain of salt on here.

I have been in your shoes before + the best advice that I can give you is to a). Focus on YOU now. Improve yourself and make sure to take very good care of your physical/emotional/Mental well-being at all times! No exceptions.
Stay away from toxic people and/or situations as you are just too fragile to take any more stress at this time.
b). Be patient. Allow yourself the time needed to fully and properly heal. Do NOT try to get around this. Shortcuts will only prolong your progress tenfold.

There will be that day when it will no longer hurt your heart when thinking of him.
It seems absolutely impossible at this time, but I promise you that day will arrive.

(((((( HUGS ))))))

Thank you so much for your support!

[Anonymous]

Hi OP, try not to sour so bitter and judgmental. You sound like you really wanted this to work out because you want a family. Maybe he really needs a woman who lets him take care of her instead of her being a mom to him. Don't ever be the mom. Huge turn off for a guy. Learn to receive from men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi OP, try not to sour so bitter and judgmental. You sound like you really wanted this to work out because you want a family. Maybe he really needs a woman who lets him take care of her instead of her being a mom to him. Don't ever be the mom. Huge turn off for a guy. Learn to receive from men.

I am sour, bitter, and judgmental...

And I reserve the right to be.

F*** men.

[Anonymous]

Sad to say, this is just something you must go thru. That first time had to happen at some time. She may be just a rebound girlfriend. But, seriously, it is time for you to move on.
Have you tried some counseling at all? It can really give you a whole new perspective and begin the healing of your heart. You need to take care of yourself and continue that emotional wellness that you
need so much. I know it's hard, but you can do this. Hold your head high and be brave. It's time for a new start.

[Anonymous]

It's part of the rich human experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sad to say, this is just something you must go thru. That first time had to happen at some time. She may be just a rebound girlfriend. But, seriously, it is time for you to move on.
Have you tried some counseling at all? It can really give you a whole new perspective and begin the healing of your heart. You need to take care of yourself and continue that emotional wellness that you
need so much. I know it's hard, but you can do this. Hold your head high and be brave. It's time for a new start.

OP here. Thanks. The more I try to forget him the more intrusive the thoughts become. I'm seriously becoming worried for myself (and, yes, I'm in therapy).

[Anonymous]

It's actually good you found out the truth early. It will set you free faster. The feelings will be more intense now but fade faster than if you held out hope. Don't try to banish the thoughts. Just acknowledge them and try to shift your focus to something else. Do this every time. Acknowledge "yep, still feel shitty" then again try for a distraction. Rinse and repeat. Stay busy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not trying to give you hope, but just because he has a girlfriend doesn’t mean he’s moved on. People get in rebound relationships all the time.

This. I am dating someone but still miss the guy who dumped me a couple months ago.

+1000 My ex's new girlfriend looks a lot like me except not as attractive, educated, not a professional, single mother, etc. I wish him luck.

Men don’t care about professional careers and education. They want a wife who is good looking, fun to be around with a nice demeanor, funny, has enthusiastic sex and is a good mother.

Chances are she’s just as or more attractive than you and your opinion of yourself doesn’t match the final product, hence why he moved on.

Bingo! Men do not give a crap about your career. That is way down on the wish list for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Read "Biology" book by Robert Sapolsky. Your feelings stems from human biological instinct to survive and replicate. If you found a new boyfriend who was better looking, more successful, with better personality and who treated you better than your ex, you would not have thought or felt that way at all. But since you are still single, you feel rejected by seeing his new gf and feeling bad that he's moved on like you didn't even matter.

This bad feeling will go away. It's ok to feel how you feel. I found that going to the gym and eating healthy has always helped after breakup. Once I get in better shape, I start feeling like a new and improved version of myself. Inevitably other men start chasing me, and the ex becomes a distant memory.

That's the nice version, it also is fairly established women want what other women want and they instinctively hate each other.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What does his new gf being a single mom have to do with anything? You're a jealous bitch. I hope he married that girl. Ha!

That'll serve you right.

If she is dumb enough to marry him, she'll have to support him along with her daughter and any kids they have. He's a man in his 30s who can't hold a job despite having a Masters degree.

Yet you are the jealous one. Odds are he is the lucky one

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I told him off and finally brought the rest of his stuff back to him. It has been liberating because I had been holding out hope for a reconciliation, which he didn't exactly discourage. I told him he's a player and a liar and one day, somebody will hurt him too (he has always been the one to end relationships). Blocked him on every medium, told him to never contact me again. Now I can start fresh.

From the sound of thing it appears he dodged a bullet by getting rid of you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I told him off and finally brought the rest of his stuff back to him. It has been liberating because I had been holding out hope for a reconciliation, which he didn't exactly discourage. I told him he's a player and a liar and one day, somebody will hurt him too (he has always been the one to end relationships). Blocked him on every medium, told him to never contact me again. Now I can start fresh.

From the sound of thing it appears he dodged a bullet by getting rid of you

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