Do second chances ever work?

[Anonymous]

We dated 10 months and we're in a good place, then he left without a trace. Only to show up again a month later. I ignored him. I care about him tremendously but don't enjoy playing the fool. I've been ignoring him for the past several months while he's tried to reach me via text, calls, gifts delivered, and even snail mail.

I don't want my heart broken again.

Do second chances ever lead to a happy ending?

[Anonymous]

Rarely. And only if he had a really, really good reason for disappearing. Otherwise the second chance just shows him how much shit you are willing to absorb.

[Anonymous]

I think they can. Listen to your intuition.

[Anonymous]

Gifts delivered?! Give him a chance girl.

[Anonymous]

I don't trust my intuition when it comes to men. Historically, it has been a terrible gauge. I grew up in a volatile household, and despite therapy and many self-help books, am still learning what healthy love and relationships look like.

I feel this man is being manipulative, and coming back into my life not out of love, but maybe bc of some sort of manipulative control thing. The people I know in loving relationships never went through something like this, that I know of. It makes me weary of him. But I do still care about and like him very much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We dated 10 months and we're in a good place, then he left without a trace. Only to show up again a month later. I ignored him. I care about him tremendously but don't enjoy playing the fool. I've been ignoring him for the past several months while he's tried to reach me via text, calls, gifts delivered, and even snail mail.

I don't want my heart broken again.

Do second chances ever lead to a happy ending?

Rarely. What’s his explanation? I don’t care what a guy says, it’s generally another woman, and that’s hard to get over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't trust my intuition when it comes to men. Historically, it has been a terrible gauge. I grew up in a volatile household, and despite therapy and many self-help books, am still learning what healthy love and relationships look like.

I feel this man is being manipulative, and coming back into my life not out of love, but maybe bc of some sort of manipulative control thing. The people I know in loving relationships never went through something like this, that I know of. It makes me weary of him. But I do still care about and like him very much.

People don’t run away from healthy loving relationships. Stay strong and don’t let him back. You are doing good girl!

[Anonymous]

Don't take him back. Did he ever give you an eplanation? My guess is that it was another woman. It didn't work out and now he wants you back. You deserve better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't trust my intuition when it comes to men. Historically, it has been a terrible gauge. I grew up in a volatile household, and despite therapy and many self-help books, am still learning what healthy love and relationships look like.

I feel this man is being manipulative, and coming back into my life not out of love, but maybe bc of some sort of manipulative control thing. The people I know in loving relationships never went through something like this, that I know of. It makes me weary of him. But I do still care about and like him very much.

that's BS. i would give him a chance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't trust my intuition when it comes to men. Historically, it has been a terrible gauge. I grew up in a volatile household, and despite therapy and many self-help books, am still learning what healthy love and relationships look like.

I feel this man is being manipulative, and coming back into my life not out of love, but maybe bc of some sort of manipulative control thing. The people I know in loving relationships never went through something like this, that I know of. It makes me weary of him. But I do still care about and like him very much.

that's BS. i would give him a chance.

Says the guy who is controlling and loves the roller coaster ride.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Rarely. And only if he had a really, really good reason for disappearing. Otherwise the second chance just shows him how much shit you are willing to absorb.

+1

[Anonymous]

In his letters and texts, he gave the lame excuse of work being the reason he left me high and dry. Then he said that after a few days, he was afraid I'd be angry and said that's why he never got in touch. Believe it or not, he has not even said he's sorry. It actually feels like he somehow puts the blame for his absence on me.

This just doesn't feel good. I'm working on trusting people, and he completely shattered my trust in him. I don't see him as someone who has my back, or my best interests at heart.

I've decided I'm not giving him another chance. He has not shown that he deserves that.

[Anonymous]

The guy seem to think that he is free to come and go as he pleased.
I would not get involved with him again.

There could be another girl that he dated, it did not work out, and he came back to you, OP.

[Anonymous]

F that noise.

[Anonymous]

I could never invest my heart into someone who previously had just up + left me.

Because I could never trust him again.
EVER!!

Someone who could be so callous & cruel to do that to me would most definitely be dunzo for life.