Sexual self-control?

[Anonymous]

Not sure if this situation is weird, or if my expectations are off base.

I’ve been dating a guy for a few weeks, and while we’ve been intimate, he isn’t pushy. I mean, we kiss and it leads to sex, but he isn’t demanding. For example, he’s totally fine after a date walking me to my stoop and kissing me goodnight and not coming up. But if I invite him up, he comes up. We are both in our 40s.

I this weird or have I just been dating losers?

[Anonymous]

Ugh...did you really have to call him loser? Maybe sex with you is just okay gor him.

-Female

[Anonymous]

He does what you want and you're complaining. Got it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugh...did you really have to call him loser? Maybe sex with you is just okay gor him.

-Female

No, I meant it like he’s a gentleman and the others have been losers!

[Anonymous]

He's a gentleman, and the others were losers.

[Anonymous]

What did the other guys do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What did the other guys do?

Baby its Cold Outside.

[Anonymous]

Why do you think a guy who is indifferent to sex is "better" than a guy who consistently wants it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you think a guy who is indifferent to sex is "better" than a guy who consistently wants it?

Being a gentleman isn’t indifferent per se, it’s just not begging for it like you’re desperate.

[Anonymous]

Online porn has made it MUCH easier for men to go without sex. It's easier now to play it cool with a girlfriend when you know that everything fantasy imaginable is available online. I think men were pushier about sex a generation ago basically due to desperation.

[Anonymous]

It's only been a few weeks. He's following your lead. If you've only dated guys who would force their way into your apartment after you said goodnight, then welcome to the world of dating non-felons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you think a guy who is indifferent to sex is "better" than a guy who consistently wants it?

Being a gentleman isn’t indifferent per se, it’s just not begging for it like you’re desperate.

He waits for her to invite him in. That has nothing to do with "being a gentleman" it just means he is passive: that is generally NOT a positive attribute especially for a male.
Conversely, if he (actively) invited himself in, that's not "begging for it" or "desperate".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you think a guy who is indifferent to sex is "better" than a guy who consistently wants it?

Being a gentleman isn’t indifferent per se, it’s just not begging for it like you’re desperate.

He waits for her to invite him in. That has nothing to do with "being a gentleman" it just means he is passive: that is generally NOT a positive attribute especially for a male.
Conversely, if he (actively) invited himself in, that's not "begging for it" or "desperate".

I'll take "How are women insanely impossible to please" for 200, Alex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you think a guy who is indifferent to sex is "better" than a guy who consistently wants it?

Being a gentleman isn’t indifferent per se, it’s just not begging for it like you’re desperate.

He waits for her to invite him in. That has nothing to do with "being a gentleman" it just means he is passive: that is generally NOT a positive attribute especially for a male.
Conversely, if he (actively) invited himself in, that's not "begging for it" or "desperate".

I'll take "How are women insanely impossible to please" for 200, Alex.

yeah, you get that question and trip to psychiatrist as your prize

[Anonymous]

A guy can’t win. He is polite, so he must not be into you. He asks to come inside, he’s pushy and desperate.

Ladies, what’s a man to do?