Sexual self-control?

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Anonymous wrote:Why do you think a guy who is indifferent to sex is "better" than a guy who consistently wants it?

Being a gentleman isn’t indifferent per se, it’s just not begging for it like you’re desperate.

He waits for her to invite him in. That has nothing to do with "being a gentleman" it just means he is passive: that is generally NOT a positive attribute especially for a male.
Conversely, if he (actively) invited himself in, that's not "begging for it" or "desperate".

Passive? You're nuts.

No he is right. The passive man is not generally seen in a positive light, especially by women no matter what they say. The passive man is friend zoned the more assertive man gets laid. Simply the way it is.

You sound like you've reading too much Red Pill stuff.

No but you sound like a guy who probably should. You are ABSOLUTELY dumb if you think being passive is more successful with women than being assertive. The extreme side example is easy to see "nice guy" zero women, friend zoned constantly, a-hole never short on women. You know its not an accident so many women complain men are a-holes and jerks.....they tend to respond to that more than reeling in a passive nice guy.

I have no doubt that the guy who makes getting laid his number one priority and is assertive about this with women will get laid more than the more laid-back guy. Just like someone who is entirely focused on money and status is probably going to end up with more money and status than someone who is less materialistic. But that's obviously not how this guy is wired.

[Anonymous]

Women (like men) are apt to take the path of least resistance. Aggressive men make it easy for them to say "yes." So, sometimes, they do. There aren't many aggressive women, so men - by and large - don't have that option when it comes to sex and relationships. If there were, I'll bet there would be a "dudes like aggressive sluts" counterpart to "chicks dig assholes" stereotype.

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I do agree that women like to use mens' approaches to validate their egos. But, I think women will have to learn to be more egalitarian given the current climate.

The "men must do the chasing" paradigm is a contributing factor to sexual assault by setting up a "predator/prey" dynamic. If women took a more active role, this would improve things, but women are reluctant to give this up or even acknowledge this as a factor.

[Anonymous]

As long as she comes first,... you are a gentleman.