Turning into party animal after divorce?

[Anonymous]

Does anyone else have friends who turned into total party animals after divorce? Traveling all over the world with huge groups of single women, posting “you go girl” and “new year new me” type posts on social media, avoiding hanging out with married people, constant drinking and re-living the college life? Is it possible to stay friends with these people or are they purposely trying to forget their past lives?

[Anonymous]

I am in the middle of this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am in the middle of this.

Divorcing yourself? Or trying to understand friends who are divorcing?

[Anonymous]

I've seen it happen. In my experience, it was people who married young and felt like they missed out on something. Not my scene, but I spent my twenties (and thirties!) partying pretty hard. I'm happy to have closed that chapter. I don't think it's a good look in your forties and fifties.

[Anonymous]

I was totally bewildered the first time I saw this in a close friend — and I was still single with an active social life. I quickly learned that it is a pretty common thing, especially with those who married on the younger end. Most calmed down eventually, a few remarried too quickly and a few others went really far off the rails and screwed up their lives.

[Anonymous]

My ex wife. Apparently she’s calming down after about a two year run of rhis. She aged tremendously. Still dresses all sexy like still and it’s embarrassimg to see.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ex wife. Apparently she’s calming down after about a two year run of rhis. She aged tremendously. Still dresses all sexy like still and it’s embarrassimg to see.

What the hell do you care?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My ex wife. Apparently she’s calming down after about a two year run of rhis. She aged tremendously. Still dresses all sexy like still and it’s embarrassimg to see.

What the hell do you care?

Because she’s the mother of my children and I cared about her enough to marry her. Why wouldn’t I care that she keeps her shit together? What is wrong with you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My ex wife. Apparently she’s calming down after about a two year run of rhis. She aged tremendously. Still dresses all sexy like still and it’s embarrassimg to see.

What the hell do you care?

Because she’s the mother of my children and I cared about her enough to marry her. Why wouldn’t I care that she keeps her shit together? What is wrong with you?

I would add you think it’s cool when the kids FaceTime her and she is obviously hung over with puffy eyes? When she gets them for her time in leather pants and my 11 yo rolls his eyes at me?

[Anonymous]

Op you failed to mention your real point which is these wild middle aged women often become crazy promiscuous. This behavior is why they find themselves single. In a weird reverse sexism these ladies believe their entire value as a woman consists of what's between their legs.

They're probably right.

[Anonymous]

This is one way people deal with divorce. I can imagine that it's lonely to go from having a friend/roommate/lover to not having one, so they fill the gaps. Plus they might have missed out on some stuff while married - travel, time with friends, etc.

I feel like it's probably slightly healthier than wallowing on the couch, crying every night into a pint of Ben & Jerry's.

For most people, it's a short-term phase and then they settle down into a normal routine again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am in the middle of this.

Divorcing yourself? Or trying to understand friends who are divorcing?

Left my husband and became a party animal.

[Anonymous]

Yes! In fact, I have two friends who got divorced at the same time, moved in together into a nice apartment, and do the party thing nonstop and post constantly about moving on up and living their best life and is this real life on Instagram. neither one has kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am in the middle of this.

Divorcing yourself? Or trying to understand friends who are divorcing?

You don't need to understand them. Just be there for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've seen it happen. In my experience, it was people who married young and felt like they missed out on something. Not my scene, but I spent my twenties (and thirties!) partying pretty hard. I'm happy to have closed that chapter. I don't think it's a good look in your forties and fifties.

This. Middle aged partiers always look like they are trying too hard to relive their youth.