Turning into party animal after divorce?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does anyone else have friends who turned into total party animals after divorce? Traveling all over the world with huge groups of single women, posting “you go girl” and “new year new me” type posts on social media, avoiding hanging out with married people, constant drinking and re-living the college life? Is it possible to stay friends with these people or are they purposely trying to forget their past lives?

I don't see at all how this can be negative, would you rather they traveled alone? Cause I'm sure you would have stuff to say if they still tried to go on couples trips with all of their married friends.
Going out and meeting people doesn't have anything to do with trying to relive college life, it's what single people do. It's also how they meet people and become unsingle. Do you really not remember?

[Anonymous]

I've seen it a few times. There is a manic phase for 6 months - 2 years. Then a bit of a depression seems to set in. I assume that levels out after awhile too.

[Anonymous]

I divorced in my late 30s after having married young.

I didn't post on social media about it, and I didn't party or go crazy.

But I did "date" and "enjoy" myself tremendously. It was a phase before I met someone wonderful and was open to something serious.

It's a time of experimentation and fun. Some people aren't the best decision-makers period and post on social media or act stupid.

[Anonymous]

Not really. But I remember someone once telling me that their friends seemed to get divorced in groups, almost like a few would gain their freedom and it would cause others to re-evaluate and think maybe the grass is greener. I had a lot of friends get divorced around the same time.

To the OP curious about why you posted the question. Do you feel like your friends are pulling away and leaving you behind? I was lucky that I was able to maintain close friendships even as some of the activities and hangouts diverged.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am having a BALL! I was married for 19 years. I got married at 28, so not particularly young. I'm not partying til all hours of the night and dressing super sexy, but I did get a boob job and am having an incredible time.

Me too! Enjoy

[Anonymous]

My SIL married my brother in their mid-20's, but they dated all through college. They partied a lot as a couple, and since they were the first of their friends to have children, it continued until the kids were in elementary and their friends all started having babies. My brother slowed down; SIL did not. She found a new group of drinking buddies, all in their 20's, when she was pushing 40. The booze and late nights led to checking out at home and in bringing in income. They divorced, and SIL is getting drunk at happy hours several times a week and going out to clubs. She definitely has an alcohol problem, but she also has a serious case of arrested development. Everything about her screams forever 25.