Jealousy

[Anonymous]

Have you experienced other people’s envy after you’ve lost weight?

A lot of people at work are significantly overweight. Do haters hate?

[Anonymous]

Haters do hate. They will try to sabotage you and try to convince you that you are too thin. Mind you, this applies to those of us within a healthy weight range. People are so accustomed to overweight and obese people that regular healthy weight people appear unhealthy.

[Anonymous]

Some do, some don't. It depends on the person. I find that people usually feel scared by change, so it seems like people who are insecure in their relationship with you might feel a bit worried if you start to lose weight. They're thinking -- "What does this mean about me? Will she like me anymore if she's thin and I'm still fat? Does she think I'm ugly? Will she drop me for a thinner friend/spouse if she loses weight?" After a while, if you can keep up the weight loss, they generally learn that things are fine and that nothing is all the different with you at a thinner weight, and it becomes less scary. I think the more you can do to assure people that this is really about YOU and not them and that you aren't doing it because you want something better than them, the more open they'll be.

Also, just try not to talk about it much at work, and brush off conversations about it. If you talk about it a lot, they'll comment on it more and feel more stressed by it. If you only bring it up if someone says something to you about it and are open but not overly interested in it, they'll get bored with it, too:

Coworker: "Are you trying to lose weight? You're eating salads at lunch all the time now."
You: "Yeah, my NY resolution is to get healthier. I'm going to eat salads more and exercise."
Coworker: "Good luck with that. I need to do it [or something]."
You: "Thanks. So, tell me about your weekend!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you experienced other people’s envy after you’ve lost weight?

A lot of people at work are significantly overweight. Do haters hate?

Do you work at Wal Mart?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you experienced other people’s envy after you’ve lost weight?

A lot of people at work are significantly overweight. Do haters hate?

Do you work at Wal Mart?

Presumably, she's in the US, in which 2/3 of adults are overweight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you experienced other people’s envy after you’ve lost weight?

A lot of people at work are significantly overweight. Do haters hate?

Do you work at Wal Mart?

OP here - I work in state government with a lot of stagnant people. Misery loves company.