Reply to Jealousy

Forum Index » Diet, Nutrition & Weight Loss

Reply to "Jealousy "

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]Some do, some don't.  It depends on the person.  I find that people usually feel scared by change, so it seems like people who are insecure in their relationship with you might feel a bit worried if you start to lose weight.  They're thinking -- "What does this mean about me?  Will she like me anymore if she's thin and I'm still fat?  Does she think I'm ugly?  Will she drop me for a thinner friend/spouse if she loses weight?"  After a while, if you can keep up the weight loss, they generally learn that things are fine and that nothing is all the different with you at a thinner weight, and it becomes less scary.  I think the more you can do to assure people that this is really about YOU and not them and that you aren't doing it because you want something better than them, the more open they'll be.

Also, just try not to talk about it much at work, and brush off conversations about it.  If you talk about it a lot, they'll comment on it more and feel more stressed by it.  If you only bring it up if someone says something to you about it and are open but not overly interested in it, they'll get bored with it, too:

Coworker: "Are you trying to lose weight?  You're eating salads at lunch all the time now."
You: "Yeah, my NY resolution is to get healthier.  I'm going to eat salads more and exercise."
Coworker: "Good luck with that.  I need to do it [or something]."
You: "Thanks.  So, tell me about your weekend!"[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics