Jen Hatmaker

[Anonymous]

This is her new shtick now. She’s the (Divorced) Girl Power, Boss (Single) Babe! After her cookbook, she’ll write a book about her divorce (see: Rachel Hollis’ “Didn’t See That Coming”). It will be in the Christian section of the store - even though it will be undeniably anti-Christian. She’ll write all about the putting yourself first, living your dreams, self-care BS that all women want to hear (but never actually put into practice because…… our families matter). It will be gross.

Then when/if a Republican President is elected, she’ll switch back to Social Justice Warrior Jen(!); and we will all collectively roll our eyes.

[Anonymous]

Brandon replied to some comment on his Instagram post that this wasn’t “sudden”. That they (together and separately) have been in therapy for YEARS. It’s interesting that she presents their divorce as her being blindsided and in shock. I wonder what that’s all about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Brandon replied to some comment on his Instagram post that this wasn’t “sudden”. That they (together and separately) have been in therapy for YEARS. It’s interesting that she presents their divorce as her being blindsided and in shock. I wonder what that’s all about?

Both can be true. People in marriage can have different experiences and realities. There was something that broke the camels back and that something felt sudden. Brandon may have his his addictions better than he thought, or she stuck her head in the sand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Whatever the reason, it’s sad to get divorced after raising five children together. People think they will be better off “out here”. Let me tell you, you do not want to be out here dating. You leave your marriage with mounds of baggage and meet people with mounds of baggage. Your kids start lugging around your selfish baggage and start there own trauma baggage. You think things will be better if you start fresh - like his new girl who is prob a nice person right now and makes him feel important. Jen is basically a nice person too but she seems to need constant validation that she is doing something important - that she is the important one. Sadly, her list of what she is looking for in a mate was basically her perception of herself. She wants a carbon copy of herself. Hopefully she wrote it as satire.

I’m sure it’s hell that Brandon has moved on with someone like Tina but this isn’t a good look.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Brandon replied to some comment on his Instagram post that this wasn’t “sudden”. That they (together and separately) have been in therapy for YEARS. It’s interesting that she presents their divorce as her being blindsided and in shock. I wonder what that’s all about?

Both can be true. People in marriage can have different experiences and realities. There was something that broke the camels back and that something felt sudden. Brandon may have his his addictions better than he thought, or she stuck her head in the sand.

She admits to sticking her head in the sand financially. One missed mortgage payment on the lake house, or whatever... could have been enough to have the house of card come crumbling down. Self induced or not, what he knew in June of 2020 is not the same information she had. When she received that information, it felt sudden and unrepairable.

[Anonymous]

Oh my goodness, I used to be a huge Jen fan, but now she's in NYC?! I wonder if she knows it's possible to spend time in a city with friends WITHOUT posting on socials. How exhausting.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I am so annoyed by the little Christian friends cult that she and Annie Downs among SO MANY others are apart of. All of the talk about being besties with Broadway actors— people with true talent— just seems so opportunistic. Latching themselves on to these associations to be popular, etc. Not many folks get to fly up to NYC in what’s still a pandemic to see opening night and third row of a Broadway show due to *connections*. It just seems very “look at us”. Sigh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is her new shtick now. She’s the (Divorced) Girl Power, Boss (Single) Babe! After her cookbook, she’ll write a book about her divorce (see: Rachel Hollis’ “Didn’t See That Coming”). It will be in the Christian section of the store - even though it will be undeniably anti-Christian. She’ll write all about the putting yourself first, living your dreams, self-care BS that all women want to hear (but never actually put into practice because…… our families matter). It will be gross.

Then when/if a Republican President is elected, she’ll switch back to Social Justice Warrior Jen(!); and we will all collectively roll our eyes.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I am so annoyed by the little Christian friends cult that she and Annie Downs among SO MANY others are apart of. All of the talk about being besties with Broadway actors— people with true talent— just seems so opportunistic. Latching themselves on to these associations to be popular, etc. Not many folks get to fly up to NYC in what’s still a pandemic to see opening night and third row of a Broadway show due to *connections*. It just seems very “look at us”. Sigh.

I don't care who she's friends with, but all of her behavior during this pandemic has been so appalling to me. Her posts frame her as such a victim, and I get that she's experienced loss. But she's so oblivious to the sheer amount of pain and suffering happening right now while constantly parading her own personal loss. And she has not made any attempts to hide her reckless pandemic behavior. It's all so selfish.

[Anonymous]

In addition to her victimized posts about home schooling and doing this and that, and how I JUST CAN'T. I'm through, y'all. I'm DONE. Told whatever kid, I've raised five kids and I'm finished with . . . . (fill in the blank - listening, caring, running around).

Makes you wonder how on earth do all these other millions of people manage to parent their kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In addition to her victimized posts about home schooling and doing this and that, and how I JUST CAN'T. I'm through, y'all. I'm DONE. Told whatever kid, I've raised five kids and I'm finished with . . . . (fill in the blank - listening, caring, running around).

Makes you wonder how on earth do all these other millions of people manage to parent their kids.

But it's all ok bc when everything gets too hard, she can drop everything and spend an entire day on her porch. And she always has friends to swoop in and buy her a vespa/porch bed/Whitney Houston shirts(!?)

Just once I would love to see one of her friends tag JH thanking HER for going above and beyond for THEM. But I have a feeling that those acts of kindness only flow in one direction.....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In addition to her victimized posts about home schooling and doing this and that, and how I JUST CAN'T. I'm through, y'all. I'm DONE. Told whatever kid, I've raised five kids and I'm finished with . . . . (fill in the blank - listening, caring, running around).

Makes you wonder how on earth do all these other millions of people manage to parent their kids.

But it's all ok bc when everything gets too hard, she can drop everything and spend an entire day on her porch. And she always has friends to swoop in and buy her a vespa/porch bed/Whitney Houston shirts(!?)

Just once I would love to see one of her friends tag JH thanking HER for going above and beyond for THEM. But I have a feeling that those acts of kindness only flow in one direction.....

I’m pretty sure I’ve read an Instagram post from her about gushing to a friend how thoughtful Brandon was at gift giving; and when the friend asked what she did in return, she replied, “It’s my job to RECEIVE them.” Written without any irony or self-awareness at all.

[Anonymous]

Yeah. I guess it’s not as much as caring who her friends are as much as it is a vibe of we are the popular ones and we live this charmed life because we deserve it. It baffles me that she has the level of sisterhood followers she does, but I guess social media masters have to be narcs to have the audacity to make half their posts. Humble folks who just do simply good things in secret… no one follows them because no one knows to. I guess I’m just bitter because I know some of the friends in her friend group, went to church with them for years…always got an us versus them vibe in this sad cult of Christian celebrity. :/ If you’re not one of them, you’re just not exciting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Brandon replied to some comment on his Instagram post that this wasn’t “sudden”. That they (together and separately) have been in therapy for YEARS. It’s interesting that she presents their divorce as her being blindsided and in shock. I wonder what that’s all about?

There is probably a lot of shame and embarrassment, and a sense of failure. So believing and saying it was sudden can be a way to deflect some responsibility. Also..you can know you have serious issues and have them for a long time but still believe you will not divorce. In fact having them for a long time may actually feed a complacency where you believe your partner will bear it long term as you plan to. I believe she was shocked. And there may have been something new and shocking even within the backdrop of long term struggles.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In addition to her victimized posts about home schooling and doing this and that, and how I JUST CAN'T. I'm through, y'all. I'm DONE. Told whatever kid, I've raised five kids and I'm finished with . . . . (fill in the blank - listening, caring, running around).

Makes you wonder how on earth do all these other millions of people manage to parent their kids.

But it's all ok bc when everything gets too hard, she can drop everything and spend an entire day on her porch. And she always has friends to swoop in and buy her a vespa/porch bed/Whitney Houston shirts(!?)

Just once I would love to see one of her friends tag JH thanking HER for going above and beyond for THEM. But I have a feeling that those acts of kindness only flow in one direction.....

She seems like a hungry person...for attention, care, validation. I think she knows this about herself actually, she seems to hace referenced herself as a "drama queen" of sorts. It's who she is and she now rolls with it, basking in sharing her flaws and having people join in regarding that being ok, you are loved. It can be defensive long term but I imagine it helps her deal with her past self esteem issues.