How do you keep a loser away from [dating] your 16-18 yo high schooler?

[Anonymous]

What steps can a parent take to end it.

[Anonymous]

you can't. You can teach your kid to pick good mates....but guys will go for the girls that put out and there is the appeal of the bad boy.

[Anonymous]

You can't, but you CAN require that anyone dating your child has to meet you and learn about your rules and expectations around dating.

You'd be surprised at how quickly the losers run in the other direction.

[Anonymous]

Oh my, why is your kid into losers?

[Anonymous]

I ended it by sending her to live with her dad, 1,100 miles away. She got over him quickly.

[Anonymous]

I had her older brother spend some quality time with the idiot. Problem solved.

[Anonymous]

You needed to lay the groundwork for this years ago. Self esteem, judgement, etc. Losers don’t go for girls who are confident.

[Anonymous]

My dad conveniently cleaned his rifles any time a boy came to pick me up.

[Anonymous]

I don't know what steps you take to keep the kid away but I do know that the more you push him away the more she'll want to be with him. So watch your step, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:you can't. You can teach your kid to pick good mates....but guys will go for the girls that put out and there is the appeal of the bad boy.

Where is the appeal of the bad boy? Only for the easy girls, according to what you said. It sounds more like therein lies the appeal of bad girls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You needed to lay the groundwork for this years ago. Self esteem, judgement, etc. Losers don’t go for girls who are confident.

Pshaw- all sorts will take their chances at a hot girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My dad conveniently cleaned his rifles any time a boy came to pick me up.

“I’ve got a .45 and a shovel, and I doubt anyone would miss you.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My dad conveniently cleaned his rifles any time a boy came to pick me up.

“I’ve got a .45 and a shovel, and I doubt anyone would miss you.”

Haha that is one of my favorite movie quotes ever.

[Anonymous]

Shame on you - this parent had asked for help and you are bashing their parenting!

I agree that if you try to push them apart, it will have the opposite affect. Best chances are to model a good relationship with your partner, and when there are moments of calm, and you can keep your emotions supressed, you can say, "We are a good pair because we love and respect each other, are kind and supportive of each other, etc. I see why you are attracted to so-and-so, can you share with me more about your relationship? Is it respectful? Is he kind to you? How do you support each other?" Then listen. You can hope she will eventually realize her mistake, but until then, be supportive or you may lose her entirely.

[Anonymous]

Be very busy doing family things. Not a lot of time for hangers on who can't keep up.