Cursing at each other

[Anonymous]

Do couples really do this and have a happy relationship? It doesn't feel right to me. BF and I had an argument and he said "F&ck you Larla!" I was shocked and hung up the phone. He called back and continued with other obscenities. For the record, I don't curse, he does. It bothers me, but I've been able to deal with it,because it hasn't been directed at me. Now, I'm realizing that if I'm going to be with this man, I may get more of this. Is it possible to have a healthy relationship and curse at each other occasionally?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do couples really do this and have a happy relationship? It doesn't feel right to me. BF and I had an argument and he said "F&ck you Larla!" I was shocked and hung up the phone. He called back and continued with other obscenities. For the record, I don't curse, he does. It bothers me, but I've been able to deal with it,because it hasn't been directed at me. Now, I'm realizing that if I'm going to be with this man, I may get more of this. Is it possible to have a healthy relationship and curse at each other occasionally?

The problem is not that he cursed at you. In the heat of the moment many of us do. The problem is that he called back and conti

[Anonymous]

The problem is not that he cursed at you. In the heat of the moment many of us do. The problem is that he called back and continued cursing.

[Anonymous]

Perfectly normal!

[Anonymous]

If I'm upset I have no problem throwing out a few swear words here and there, but he never does. We have different personalities, and we deal with things differently. He never takes it personally, because he knows that's just me. We have a healthy relationship.

[Anonymous]

NOT perfectly normal. I do NOT curse at my DH, nor does he curse at me. Respect.

[Anonymous]

No, not normal. Cursing because you're angry is different from cursing AT someone. That's abusive and a red flag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NOT perfectly normal. I do NOT curse at my DH, nor does he curse at me. Respect.

Agree.

-a husband

[Anonymous]

My husband and I have never cursed at each other. I’m pretty sure neither of our parents have either, so I guess it’s how we were raised. I would not be ok with a spouse cursing at me.

[Anonymous]

Why choose to have this person as a boyfriend? You have a choice

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Perfectly normal!

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Perfectly normal!

If you enjoy verbal abuse. Good times!

[Anonymous]

I curse like a sailor. It is a job requirement. But I have a dozen ways to peacefully manage conflict. I am kind, loving, direct and so understanding. I only cursed at my XH because he did everything in his power to intentionally piss me off.

[Anonymous]

Nope. DH and I curse in front of each other. But DH would never call me curse words, or me him.

[Anonymous]

We don’t, at least not in a serious manner. I think once in 5 years he used a curse during a fight—not even like, “f*** you Larla,” more like “I hate when you f***ing do that” or something. I got really mad and he’s never done it since, and I don’t either.

However, we do like rival football teams, so sometimes during games we jokingly curse at each other but we don’t get honestly mad about that stuff so it’s all in fun.