Cursing at each other

[Anonymous]

It is not normal nor acceptable to me, you might feel differently. Obviously others who are responding "this is normal" see it as normal for them. I've never been in a relationship with anyone who curses at me so I would not tolerate it.

I also find his calling you back and continuing to berate you as abusive but lots of women will put up with it. I won't.

[Anonymous]

Gross! Good time to peace the f**k out! Ha

[Anonymous]

I have been known to curse at my husband from time to time during extremely stressful situations where I feel he has not really heard me or my needs. I am normally very nice, so I have to say my outbursts have "worked" to wake him up. And I do think we have a good marriage all in all.

But if it freaks you out then this is probably not the guy for you.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I'm going to end it tonight. This has been on my mind all day, and I know that I don't want this type of relationship.

Going to his house tonight to say goodbye. I'm sad because we've been together for over 10 years (friends for 14). And no, he's never cursed at me like that before. I think he was trying to find a way out. He's has said before that he likes to end relationships in a bad way. Oh well.

Thanks for all thoughts and opinions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NOT perfectly normal. I do NOT curse at my DH, nor does he curse at me. Respect.

19yrs of marriage ans NOT normal! Weve never ever said F you to each other. Hes said you're acting like a bitch and Ive said your acting like an asshole, but never more than that.

[Anonymous]

I curse like a sailor sometimes but never at DH. DH does not curse and has never cursed at me, ever, and we have been together for 30 yrs. I don’t consider cursing at one’s spouse (or name calling) acceptable behavior. It shows a complete lack of respect and is a terrible example to the kids.

[Anonymous]

I curse like a sailor but don’t curse at DH. I’m not very volatile and keep my cool when we argue. We don’t argue often though. He doesn’t call me names or curse at me like that either. I’m too sensitive and he knows it would hurt me if he said something nasty like that. We jokingly call each other names sometimes or curse at each other though. Just never in a way that could be taken seriously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm going to end it tonight. This has been on my mind all day, and I know that I don't want this type of relationship.

Going to his house tonight to say goodbye. I'm sad because we've been together for over 10 years (friends for 14). And no, he's never cursed at me like that before. I think he was trying to find a way out. He's has said before that he likes to end relationships in a bad way. Oh well.

Thanks for all thoughts and opinions.

Geez... make it quick then leave before he can think of any choice parting words. Then run a bath and fill your head with positive affirmations.

[Anonymous]

I think the only time I said F you to my husband was when he beat me by five points in our fantasy league and danced around the house while playing Queen. And did it again the next morning. But never ever out of anger or while disagreeing.

[Anonymous]

OP, courageous. My XH called me all manner of nasty things, only with us it was in front of the kids. You're wise to get away before that.

[Anonymous]

It's fine to curse but not okay to curse at people or call people names. This is not fair, respectful fighting, in my opinion. It crosses a line when someone does that. It's fine to say, "I'm so mad at you!" or "That's bullshit." It's another to say, "F you" or "You're a b*tch."

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I don't know when it started, but my DH and I began cursing at each other during fights. It's terrible, but like everything else, the words eventually just lose their meaning. But, so has our relationship.

If it makes you uncomfortable, don't go down that path. It could work for some couples who are both ok with it, but for us it was a red flag.

[Anonymous]

Not normal at all. In 30 years of marriage, we have never used profanity towards each other. This is why only grown ups should get married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm going to end it tonight. This has been on my mind all day, and I know that I don't want this type of relationship.

Going to his house tonight to say goodbye. I'm sad because we've been together for over 10 years (friends for 14). And no, he's never cursed at me like that before. I think he was trying to find a way out. He's has said before that he likes to end relationships in a bad way. Oh well.

Thanks for all thoughts and opinions.

You've been dating him for ten years??

[Anonymous]

How bout you tell him it's ok to be mad let it be known but not to aim profanities at you since it has a huge effect on you. You need to preface this with you are NOT criticizing him.