Who goes to the guest bedroom the sick spouse or the well spouse?
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Anonymous
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Spouse A: says sick spouse goes to guest room
Spouse B : Says sic spouse stays in their normal bed. Normla bed is closer to the kids rooms that typically wake at night. |
Anonymous
If we had a guest bed, my husband would probably go to it regardless. I like our bed.  Usually the sick person because we don't have a guest room stays in the bedroom and the other person gets the couch.
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Anonymous
| Sick spouse stays in own bed. |
Anonymous
| Neither. We sleep in the same bed even when one of us is sick. After 30 years of marriage, neither of us sleeps well alone. Besides, you are usually contagious long before you show symptoms. Also, I never get sick. |
Anonymous
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In my house, sick spouse stays in normal bed. Sick spouse is miserable enough as it is, deserves the comfort of the regular surroundings and good mattress. And the regular bed is closer to a bathroom, which may be important depending on what kind of sickness it is.
However, being right next to the kids rooms might change that if they wake regularly and guest-room parent won't hear them. |
Anonymous
| Sick spouse gets the better arrangement. |
Anonymous
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It depends what illness it is, how severe and what the patient's needs are, and how badly the other spouse needs sleep to be a good caregiver and go to work the next day.
If you're talking about a cold, then surely it's not that important who goes where? When I was very ill with a thyroid crisis and just back from the ER waiting for surgery, I could not go up the stairs, so I slept on the main level. |
Anonymous
| Sick spouse |
Anonymous
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Whatever sick spouse wants.
When I'm sick with a migraine, there is something about the guest room I love. The sheets feel crisp and cool. When I'm sick with a cold, I want to be in my regular bed, which is adjustable and very useful for sleeping slightly up to ease congestion. |
Anonymous
That's nice, but doesn't mean you have a stronger marriage because of it. When my husband got the flu on a cruise, you bet your ass I went to sleeping on the couch immediately. Not comfortable at all, and I figured I'd still get sick since we were in that tiny room, but amazingly I didn't. I figured one of us needed to be well for the trip home. |
Anonymous
| My DH usually goes to the guest room whether he's sick or not (he really likes the mattress in there). But if it were a question, sick spouse gets to rest where they're most comfortable. |
Anonymous
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I don’t understand you PPs.
Sick spouse definitely goes to the guest room in my book. Sick spouse shouldn’t be dealing with the kids in the middle of the night because he’ll infect the kids and he also feels terrible |
Anonymous
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If the person who is not sick will be handling the kids' wake-ups, then that person should stay closest to the kids' rooms. It also probably makes sense for the sick person to go to the guest room because if the sick person sleeps in the shared bed until feeling better and then the well person returns (and when is that exactly?), then the well person is likely to get sick from the sheets.
But some of it is also based on who feels the move is necessary. If the sick person is content where he/she is and the well person is annoyed by coughing or loud snorting, etc., then the well person probably should be the one to take the initiative to move. |
Anonymous
+1 I actually never think of using the guest room like that. It's the one room in the house that is kept pristine. No way do I want someone barfing in it. |
Anonymous
That one bedroom is closer doesn't mean the other is too far to hear the kids. That sounded like a really flimsy excuse when offered in the op. |