Who goes to the guest bedroom the sick spouse or the well spouse?

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11/29/2017 23:18

Subject: Who goes to the guest bedroom the sick spouse or the well spouse?

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Anonymous wrote:If the person who is not sick will be handling the kids' wake-ups, then that person should stay closest to the kids' rooms. It also probably makes sense for the sick person to go to the guest room because if the sick person sleeps in the shared bed until feeling better and then the well person returns (and when is that exactly?), then the well person is likely to get sick from the sheets.

But some of it is also based on who feels the move is necessary. If the sick person is content where he/she is and the well person is annoyed by coughing or loud snorting, etc., then the well person probably should be the one to take the initiative to move.

Or you could just change the sheets before well spouse comes back. Even when I'm the one who's been sick, I don't want to sleep in gross sick sheets once I start feeling better.

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11/30/2017 06:32

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Anonymous

I'm the sick spouse right now. Dh slept in the guest room. This way I have access to the master bath without disturbing anyone and can sleep a little more comfortably .

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11/30/2017 06:34

Subject: Re:Who goes to the guest bedroom the sick spouse or the well spouse?

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Anonymous

Sick spouse stays in own bed.

How is this even a question?

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11/30/2017 06:39

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Anonymous

Sick person decides. In our house it varies. If I've got a little cold that's keeping me up, I often sack out on the couch. If I'm really sick, I just want to be in my own bed, and dh prefers to leave me to my misery.

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11/30/2017 06:43

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Anonymous

I always go sleep on the couch. DH is a beast if he doesn’t sleep well.

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11/30/2017 06:49

Subject: Who goes to the guest bedroom the sick spouse or the well spouse?

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Anonymous

If DH is sick, he gets our bed because it’s the “sick room” - sheets, bathroom, etc. have already been contaminated and one of us needs to stay well to care for the kids...so I’ll go to the guest room. And vice versa.

When spouse is well, everything in master bedroom gets cleaned, washed and disinfected.

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11/30/2017 07:04

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Anonymous

Anonymous wrote:Whatever sick spouse wants.

THIS.

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11/30/2017 07:12

Subject: Who goes to the guest bedroom the sick spouse or the well spouse?

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Anonymous

Anonymous wrote:It depends what illness it is, how severe and what the patient's needs are, and how badly the other spouse needs sleep to be a good caregiver and go to work the next day.

If you're talking about a cold, then surely it's not that important who goes where?

When I was very ill with a thyroid crisis and just back from the ER waiting for surgery, I could not go up the stairs, so I slept on the main level.

This.

After one surgery, I slept in DD’s bed because it was lower than ours.

After his V, DH slept on the floor of the living room for two nights because he wanted to be dramatic. I love telling that story because he has a PH and didn’t even know he had THAT wound for hours.

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11/30/2017 07:17

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Anonymous

The sick spouse for sure.

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11/30/2017 07:31

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Anonymous

How young are your kids that you have two of them who cannot sleep through the night?

We sleep in the same bed.

Truly this is a first world problem.

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11/30/2017 07:38

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Anonymous

DH always goes to the guest room in our house. He already sleep there if he stays up late or gets up early to do work so it’s already more his domain so to speak. He slept there after I had surgery this summer as well.

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11/30/2017 07:40

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Anonymous wrote:Whatever sick spouse wants.

THIS.

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11/30/2017 07:47

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Anonymous

We don’t leave unless someone can’t sleep. Then the restless person goes.

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11/30/2017 08:08

Subject: Re:Who goes to the guest bedroom the sick spouse or the well spouse?

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Anonymous

Anonymous wrote:Neither. We sleep in the same bed even when one of us is sick. After 30 years of marriage, neither of us sleeps well alone. Besides, you are usually contagious long before you show symptoms. Also, I never get sick.

For me it has nothing to do with contagions. If im sick and up all night with coughing fits, or have to run to the bathroom to puke, there is no need for my healthy spouse who has to now take care of the entire house to get no sleep.

Sick person in pur home always goes in the guest room. It has an attached bath so it makes it all very comfortable.

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11/30/2017 08:10

Subject: Re:Who goes to the guest bedroom the sick spouse or the well spouse?

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Anonymous wrote:Neither. We sleep in the same bed even when one of us is sick. After 30 years of marriage, neither of us sleeps well alone. Besides, you are usually contagious long before you show symptoms. Also, I never get sick.

We are the same way, though not married as long. The only way we separate is if someone has a cough or vomiting where they are up all night making noise and waking the other person up. In that case, regardless of which one of us is sick, my DH is usually the one to move because he’s very considerate.