Keeps getting in touch.

[Anonymous]

Went on a fun date with a guy. We were both into it. He texted right after saying he had a good time and wanted to do it again. That was two weeks ago. Since then I have suggested dinner last weekend but he was out of town. He will interminently text me randomly just to chit chat, but won’t bring up meeting again. Do i just start ignoring his texts? I feel like two weeks between dates indicates a major lack of interest and i don’t really need anymore friends to text with.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, you need to do a slow fade on him. Stop being so available to take these texts and reply. You suggested dinner and he was busy. Maybe legit but he hasn't asked you out since then? Yeah, sorry, but this just isn't happening and he is likely shopping around while trying to keep you on a string.

Next time he texts, don't answer until the next morning and do not reply to anything he said in text. Just explain you were too busy to reply because you were out for the evening. If he inquires, just say you had a wonderful time at dinner, and after.

[Anonymous]

Why not be upfront? Let him know that, while you enjoy talking to him, if this isn't going to go anywhere, you need to move on and that you feel like he is stringing you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why not be upfront? Let him know that, while you enjoy talking to him, if this isn't going to go anywhere, you need to move on and that you feel like he is stringing you.

Agree. Don't play games. Games are irritating, and no one is as clever as she thinks she is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why not be upfront? Let him know that, while you enjoy talking to him, if this isn't going to go anywhere, you need to move on and that you feel like he is stringing you.

Agree. Don't play games. Games are irritating, and no one is as clever as she thinks she is.

OP here. I am definitely not trying to play any games! I liked this guy, but being strung along is a waste of time. He is very busy (know for a fact) so guess was thinking at first that was the hold up, but two weeks is too much. Will likely take the upfront approach if he texts again without plans.

[Anonymous]

I think the 'upfront' approach is too much after just one date! I would probably just ignore the next text unless it is a text specifically asking to meet up.

[Anonymous]

Did you meet online? My guess is he was in the early stages of dating someone else when you guys and things have progressed with the other girl, and he likes you but is figuring things out with her and putting you on the back burner.

I'm not sure what to advise in this situation. Maybe text him if he texts you but don't put too much time and energy into the situation.

[Anonymous]

Be VERY busy and hard to get a hold of until and unless he asks you out again (and I don't mean last minute!). Go on other dates and live an amazing life!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, you need to do a slow fade on him. Stop being so available to take these texts and reply. You suggested dinner and he was busy. Maybe legit but he hasn't asked you out since then? Yeah, sorry, but this just isn't happening and he is likely shopping around while trying to keep you on a string.

Next time he texts, don't answer until the next morning and do not reply to anything he said in text. Just explain you were too busy to reply because you were out for the evening. If he inquires, just say you had a wonderful time at dinner, and after.

This is "playing games." When one does it, the other follows. Don't start something like this because, if it turns out he was legitimately busy, you don't want this type of bullshit to become the way you communicate/manipulate each other. It could be that he's keeping in touch because he actually likes you, but is too busy to make plans. I mean, yes it's been two weeks, but only one weekend where you didn't see each other. I'd give it another week and, unless he suggests plans, respond to one of his "hi" texts with something upfront- either asking him out again or something along the lines of "Would love to hang out again, but you seem pretty busy. Text me the next time you want to grab drinks!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, you need to do a slow fade on him. Stop being so available to take these texts and reply. You suggested dinner and he was busy. Maybe legit but he hasn't asked you out since then? Yeah, sorry, but this just isn't happening and he is likely shopping around while trying to keep you on a string.

Next time he texts, don't answer until the next morning and do not reply to anything he said in text. Just explain you were too busy to reply because you were out for the evening. If he inquires, just say you had a wonderful time at dinner, and after.

This is "playing games." When one does it, the other follows. Don't start something like this because, if it turns out he was legitimately busy, you don't want this type of bullshit to become the way you communicate/manipulate each other. It could be that he's keeping in touch because he actually likes you, but is too busy to make plans. I mean, yes it's been two weeks, but only one weekend where you didn't see each other. I'd give it another week and, unless he suggests plans, respond to one of his "hi" texts with something upfront- either asking him out again or something along the lines of "Would love to hang out again, but you seem pretty busy. Text me the next time you want to grab drinks!"

OP here - great advice. Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Be VERY busy and hard to get a hold of until and unless he asks you out again (and I don't mean last minute!). Go on other dates and live an amazing life!

OP here - thank you - this is the best course!

[Anonymous]

Or, he's very busy and would like to meet, but doesn't have time at the moment. So texting you is his way of staying in touch and letting you know he's still interested.

Test my theory -- ask him out and see what he says.

[Anonymous]

If he asked you out the first time, maybe he's thinking that he should wait for you to ask him out for the second?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If he asked you out the first time, maybe he's thinking that he should wait for you to ask him out for the second?

OP here! I did ask him and he said he was out of town, but never suggested another time. I replied let me know when you get back and we can maybe do something then. Then texted me a couple days later about something random with no mention of plans.

[Anonymous]

Weird. Some people are strange.

This would annoy me though- I might not answer his texts or just be super short and not really respond much. I dont think I'd be interested at this point.