Keeps getting in touch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why not be upfront? Let him know that, while you enjoy talking to him, if this isn't going to go anywhere, you need to move on and that you feel like he is stringing you.

That's the problem. There is no "this" to be going anywhere. For his own reasons he hasn't asked her for a second date so "this" never even got started. But he still wants to text? She needs to value herself and her time better than to be available to answer those texts, as if she's just waiting for him to decide she is the best choice some day.

[Anonymous]

If a guy really likes you, he will find time to reach out to you. I am sure he could have found some time over the past two weeks to see you. I agree with the pp that said he is seeing someone else but keeping you on the back burner. OP, you need to move on. If you think there might be a chance , leave the ball in his court and keep yourself busy. I don't think I would wait around and see if he texts. At this point I would be annoyed and would not respond to casual text that don't have an invitation to go out.

[Anonymous]

If he was really in to you he would have found time or at least planned a date. My guess is he's dating others but wants to keep you on the back burner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If he was really in to you he would have found time or at least planned a date. My guess is he's dating others but wants to keep you on the back burner.

Totally agree. If a guy wants you, he will let you know. Don't be a back burner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If he was really in to you he would have found time or at least planned a date. My guess is he's dating others but wants to keep you on the back burner.

Totally agree. If a guy wants you, he will let you know. Don't be a back burner.

+1

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thank you for all the replies. Definitely not waiting around for him to text me. I generally know when it is time to move on, but this one confused me a bit. Disappointing, but so it goes sometimes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why not be upfront? Let him know that, while you enjoy talking to him, if this isn't going to go anywhere, you need to move on and that you feel like he is stringing you.

That's the problem. There is no "this" to be going anywhere. For his own reasons he hasn't asked her for a second date so "this" never even got started. But he still wants to text? She needs to value herself and her time better than to be available to answer those texts, as if she's just waiting for him to decide she is the best choice some day.

+1
there is no "this" yet. asking about where this is going while you barely met sounds desperate. don't ask him anything, just do a fade.

[Anonymous]

http://www.cosmopolitan.com/lifestyle/a8643616/breadcrumbing-is-the-new-ghosting-and-its-savage-af/

There's a term for this, and my advice is, cut him off, cut your losses, and move on to the next one. I wasted a month with a guy like this, and it wasn't worth it at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why not be upfront? Let him know that, while you enjoy talking to him, if this isn't going to go anywhere, you need to move on and that you feel like he is stringing you.

+ 1

If he lets two weeks elapse after your initial meeting, then he really is not interested in you, yet wants to keep you in the wings waiting just in case.

Ignore him.

Spend your time + energy on someone who actually seems interested in you and clearly makes you a higher priority.

You deserve much more than this clod.

[Anonymous]

Guy here. He is just not that into you. He would have followed up right away for another get together.

[Anonymous]

Ignore his texts and forget him OP. He sounds like a douche.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Got it. Figured out he is not into me. He is not a douche. He is a great guy who did not think we were a match but did not have the balls to tell me. All good. Dating in 2017.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Got it. Figured out he is not into me. He is not a douche. He is a great guy who did not think we were a match but did not have the balls to tell me. All good. Dating in 2017.

Keep yourself busy. He'll be in touch. Make him call you to plan another date. Don't ask him out again. Make him plan the dates. Don't respond to his text.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Got it. Figured out he is not into me. He is not a douche. He is a great guy who did not think we were a match but did not have the balls to tell me. All good. Dating in 2017.

Keep yourself busy. He'll be in touch. Make him call you to plan another date. Don't ask him out again. Make him plan the dates. Don't respond to his text.

Texted again to say hi and said he wants to go out again, but again will not pick a date just says he is really busy right now. I am just ignoring. So weird.

[Anonymous]

If he's too busy for one few hour date, then what is really going on and how would he handle a long term relationship? I think he's married or dating someone else.