Would you call him back or ghost him?

[Anonymous]

If you went on a so-so afternoon date with a guy, and he called you later that evening and left a message asking you out again, only he called you the wrong name, would you even call him back?

So this happened to me. Date was ok, but left me sort of meh. Guy called me later that evening, but called me another name: “Hey Jen, had a great time at XYZ. Some friends and I are going to blah blah this weekend and I’d love for you to come!” Only I’m not Jen, I’m Beth. The call was sort of a turn off/ thing I needed to know I didn’t want to see him again. And I ghosted him. Never thought I’d see him again, but I did today. We ignored each other. I was telling a friend about this, and she was shocked I didn’t call to correct my name, at the least. I told her if he couldn’t even remember my name, how into me could he have really been.

What do you think?

[Anonymous]

I'm terrible with names so I might not have held it against him if I liked him, but used it as a reason to move on if I didn't. I also think that people who act shocked by 'ghosting' after one or two dates are a little theatrical and tiresome. Disappearing on someone you've dated for six months is "ghosting," not returning a first date's call is the only answer that person needs. You'd met this guy once, you didn't owe him a breakup scene.

[Anonymous]

He's probably dating multiple people and called the wrong number. I would just ignore it.

[Anonymous]

I’m confused. If he was asking you (or another woman named Jen he intended to contact) to join in an outing with friends, that’s um, not asking for another date. That’s a hang out let’s be pals thing.

[Anonymous]

If he just left you feeling "meh" just ignore him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's probably dating multiple people and called the wrong number. I would just ignore it.

That would make sense, but we had lunch at 2 and he called at 6:30 that same day. It’s possible he went for round 2 after we left at 3:30ish, but I doubt it. He told me he “had fun at XYZ”, so I would assume he meant me.

[Anonymous]

Text hiim back and let him know he meant to contact Jen. See what he says.

[Anonymous]

I would assume that if he was actually interested in asking me out (not Jen), he would follow up via text. So I think ignoring is fine in that scenario.

[Anonymous]

Ghost him.

[Anonymous]

Lol no. Esp as the first date was only okay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you went on a so-so afternoon date with a guy, and he called you later that evening and left a message asking you out again, only he called you the wrong name, would you even call him back?

So this happened to me. Date was ok, but left me sort of meh. Guy called me later that evening, but called me another name: “Hey Jen, had a great time at XYZ. Some friends and I are going to blah blah this weekend and I’d love for you to come!” Only I’m not Jen, I’m Beth. The call was sort of a turn off/ thing I needed to know I didn’t want to see him again. And I ghosted him. Never thought I’d see him again, but I did today. We ignored each other. I was telling a friend about this, and she was shocked I didn’t call to correct my name, at the least. I told her if he couldn’t even remember my name, how into me could he have really been.

What do you think?

I would have take the opportunity to tease him about it before shutting him down.

"sounds like fun but I wouldn't want you introducing me as Jen when my name is Beth.

How he reacted to that would have told you even more about him then, when you saw him again, you could have laughed and shook your head at him instead of feeling awkward.

[Anonymous]

Are you a person of integrity or an asshole? Act like a grown up and tell him you aren't interested...and don't jump on men who ghost women if this is your attitude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you a person of integrity or an asshole? Act like a grown up and tell him you aren't interested...and don't jump on men who ghost women if this is your attitude.

This.

Just ignoring someone is incredibly immature and lacking in class. If you didn't want to go out with him again, you still could have called him and said no thank you. Calling you by the wrong name was clearly an accident. I have a friend who I constantly (when we first met) wanted to call Heather. Her name is Jennifer. I guess she must have reminded me of a Heather, no idea why I was stuck on that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you a person of integrity or an asshole? Act like a grown up and tell him you aren't interested...and don't jump on men who ghost women if this is your attitude.

+1

Our society doesn’t need to be any coarser than it already is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you a person of integrity or an asshole? Act like a grown up and tell him you aren't interested...and don't jump on men who ghost women if this is your attitude.

+1

Our society doesn’t need to be any coarser than it already is.

Society Alonso needs people who pay attention to NAMES.