Adolescent "mustaches"

[Anonymous]

DD is in 9th grade and is constantly complaining about boys and the wispy mustaches they have above their lips. DD is in a private school where boys are required to shave, so she doesn't see it there, but for some reason it STILL "disgusts" her. Why is she acting like this about such a trivial matter?

[Anonymous]

I’m a parent and whenever I see these young boys I think why hasn’t their dad or Mom taught them to shave. It does look nasty.

I guess when they decide they want DDs to notice them they will learn about grooming. Shave, pluck those nasty unibrows, etc. (why don’t parents teach their kids to pluck unibrows) it’s even worse when adults don’t groom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD is in 9th grade and is constantly complaining about boys and the wispy mustaches they have above their lips. DD is in a private school where boys are required to shave, so she doesn't see it there, but for some reason it STILL "disgusts" her. Why is she acting like this about such a trivial matter?

Because she's in 9th grade.

Why are you posting about it?

Tell her it's their faces and their hair, and they don't have any obligation to arrange their appearance to suit her tastes -- just as she doesn't have any obligation to arrange her appearance to suit their tastes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a parent and whenever I see these young boys I think why hasn’t their dad or Mom taught them to shave. It does look nasty.

I guess when they decide they want DDs to notice them they will learn about grooming. Shave, pluck those nasty unibrows, etc. (why don’t parents teach their kids to pluck unibrows) it’s even worse when adults don’t groom.

Wow. Bet you'd be the first parent having a flaming fit if the mother of a boy made a comment about your daughter needing to (lose weight/dress better/get a decent haircut/straighten her teeth/wax her mustache)

MYOB, it's not any better to criticize boys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a parent and whenever I see these young boys I think why hasn’t their dad or Mom taught them to shave. It does look nasty.

I guess when they decide they want DDs to notice them they will learn about grooming. Shave, pluck those nasty unibrows, etc. (why don’t parents teach their kids to pluck unibrows) it’s even worse when adults don’t groom.

Wow. Bet you'd be the first parent having a flaming fit if the mother of a boy made a comment about your daughter needing to (lose weight/dress better/get a decent haircut/straighten her teeth/wax her mustache)

MYOB, it's not any better to criticize boys.

+1

Sounds like Queen bee moms raising a bunch of judgmental mean girls.

[Anonymous]

How does she feel about the girls with wispy mustaches?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How does she feel about the girls with wispy mustaches?

Doesn't care. The double standard also worries me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a parent and whenever I see these young boys I think why hasn’t their dad or Mom taught them to shave. It does look nasty.

I guess when they decide they want DDs to notice them they will learn about grooming. Shave, pluck those nasty unibrows, etc. (why don’t parents teach their kids to pluck unibrows) it’s even worse when adults don’t groom.

Wow. Bet you'd be the first parent having a flaming fit if the mother of a boy made a comment about your daughter needing to (lose weight/dress better/get a decent haircut/straighten her teeth/wax her mustache)

MYOB, it's not any better to criticize boys.

+1

Sounds like Queen bee moms raising a bunch of judgmental mean girls.

+1

WTF? MYOB OP. Tell that to your DD also. Not your body, not your decision what the boys do with theirs.

[Anonymous]

I don't blame her. Since these boys are so obsessed with girls, you'd think they'd bother to not look repulsive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a parent and whenever I see these young boys I think why hasn’t their dad or Mom taught them to shave. It does look nasty.

I guess when they decide they want DDs to notice them they will learn about grooming. Shave, pluck those nasty unibrows, etc. (why don’t parents teach their kids to pluck unibrows) it’s even worse when adults don’t groom.

Wow. Bet you'd be the first parent having a flaming fit if the mother of a boy made a comment about your daughter needing to (lose weight/dress better/get a decent haircut/straighten her teeth/wax her mustache)

MYOB, it's not any better to criticize boys.

+1

Sounds like Queen bee moms raising a bunch of judgmental mean girls.

Wow, ladies, chill.

First the op isn't being mean. Her post is actually about her dd's reaction.

I agree with your dd, op. Virgin staches are gross, however yes, it's up to personal grooming habits of the boys. Your dd may be especially sensitive to how they look, and will need to distract herself from fixating on them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a parent and whenever I see these young boys I think why hasn’t their dad or Mom taught them to shave. It does look nasty.

I guess when they decide they want DDs to notice them they will learn about grooming. Shave, pluck those nasty unibrows, etc. (why don’t parents teach their kids to pluck unibrows) it’s even worse when adults don’t groom.

Wow. Bet you'd be the first parent having a flaming fit if the mother of a boy made a comment about your daughter needing to (lose weight/dress better/get a decent haircut/straighten her teeth/wax her mustache)

MYOB, it's not any better to criticize boys.

+1

Sounds like Queen bee moms raising a bunch of judgmental mean girls.

Wow, ladies, chill.

First the op isn't being mean. Her post is actually about her dd's reaction.

I agree with your dd, op. Virgin staches are gross, however yes, it's up to personal grooming habits of the boys. Your dd may be especially sensitive to how they look, and will need to distract herself from fixating on them.

+1 for virgin staches

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a parent and whenever I see these young boys I think why hasn’t their dad or Mom taught them to shave. It does look nasty.

Father of a 13 yo boy with his original 'stache intact. MYOB. You are out of line.

I have been asking, cajoling, recommending that we start shaving for a year or more now. He's having none of it. He says, "I'd like to wait a little longer, Dad," or "I kind of like it, Dad." As ridiculous as I think it looks, he's proud of it and proud of becoming a man. He otherwise suffers from some self-esteem issues, so I'm not about to tear down something that makes him feel a little stronger just because of what I think. Some day, I'm sure, he will come home and want to shave it off, but until then, I'll just keep up my occasional offers to have that first father/son shave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a parent and whenever I see these young boys I think why hasn’t their dad or Mom taught them to shave. It does look nasty.

Father of a 13 yo boy with his original 'stache intact. MYOB. You are out of line.

I have been asking, cajoling, recommending that we start shaving for a year or more now. He's having none of it. He says, "I'd like to wait a little longer, Dad," or "I kind of like it, Dad." As ridiculous as I think it looks, he's proud of it and proud of becoming a man. He otherwise suffers from some self-esteem issues, so I'm not about to tear down something that makes him feel a little stronger just because of what I think. Some day, I'm sure, he will come home and want to shave it off, but until then, I'll just keep up my occasional offers to have that first father/son shave.

+1

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately, DD occasionally has some fuzz that should be bleached (age 16) but due to Instagram accounts touting the superiority of unisexuality, asexuality, androgeny, “intersectional” interests, and other bizarre niches that are looking mainstream to these brainwashed kids, she doesn’t agree with me that it’s necessary to home-bleach the fuzz to look hygienic.

I flippin hate social media for these impressionable kids.

[Anonymous]

As a mother of twin 13-year-old boys, I can honestly say that young teen boys are kind of grody. The screechy voices, oily complexion, and early facial hair is not doing anything for anyone. Basic hygiene is not the first thing on their minds and they have to be specifically told to shower daily and use deodorant or they will never do it. One of my boys is a little more fastidious than the other but he is still learning these things that come so naturally to most girls. For a boy who acts like a daily shower is the biggest inconvenience of his life, I'm going to hold off on expecting him to shave regularly. Maybe next year (or the year after).