Tell an opinion you have that is in the strong minority

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Anonymous wrote:I believe most working mom's wish they were SAHM. I think they are usually jealous.

I think the reverse.

Wouldn't they get a job if that was the case?

Not if they're not capable of a successful career. I don't believe that SAHMs just want a job, but I think they're jealous of my value and success in the working world.

idk, I quit my job, became a SAHM and used my extra time to write a book which made the NYT best sellers list. Would not have done that if not for being a SAHM. Guess it depends on your meaning of success.

MUST KNOW WHO YOU ARE

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Anonymous wrote:Spanish is an ugly language.

That is a strange opinion. Spanish is downright gorgeous, everything flows and the words often sound like dances

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Anonymous wrote:wealthy and privileged ivy league educated men

Historically, perhaps. But now it is women who are the largest critical voice to other women. She is the perfect example.Plenty of women making those policies. And it isn't about policy because if it were we wouldn't need Sandberg to preach her lifestyle.

Agree that sometimes women can be the worst enemy to other women. But it's kind of like Uncle Tom syndrome other groups who have been discriminated against suffer from.

fwiw I am the earlier poster and am a man.

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Anonymous wrote:Spanish is an ugly language.

That is a strange opinion. Spanish is downright gorgeous, everything flows and the words often sound like dances

Well... This is my opinion...

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Fit in a job situation is conscious or unconscious code for discrimination.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, I have read her work. She criticizes women who ask if a career is family friendly. She feels that women are putting their family first even before they have kids which undermines their career trajectory. She also is fixated on women in leadership positions, as if that is the way one should be defined. I think that is a poor mindset for anyone in a career- women and men; unless one is rising to the top and in a position of leadership, they aren't fully embracing their career. Hence, leaning in.

She comes from a life of privilege- a full ivy league education fully funded by her wealthy family. She can lean in because others are leaning in while diapering her kids. Are those career choices- the nanny, the maid, are their choices less than hers? I find that ironic.

I am not suggesting that women need to stay home. I am saying that yes, it's time our focus return to the family, not the quest for corporate power and money. If that's your thing, then great, but there is a sacrifice somewhere. It isn't a universal goal for everyone to achieve. If I am a woman and I want to work for any reason, please do not impose societal requisites on what I should be doing to prove my worth...it's just as wrong as applying those same restrictions on women who wanted to be in fields that they couldn't be in in the 60s. That's why it sets the whole enlightenment back- its about what works for the family, for you...not what it SHOULD be. And for the STEM poster- forget it. It has to be a real interest for a person to be a STEM field, not a "should."

If I decide to work part time, if I decide to stay home, or whatever, please do not require that I prove I am worthy of such. If I decide to have kids, yes, it is Ok to ask" How will I manage my family and this career."

People who ride to the top don't always do it entirely on their own merit and hard work. And once they get there sometimes gave a way of forgetting the little people. Witness Marrisa Mayer at yahoo simultaneously eliminating the WFH option but building a nursery next to her office for her kid and nanny. Not a daycare for everyone. Just a nursery for her personal use. What an ass.

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I think adhd isn't real. Autism statistics are overblown.

Diseases simply cannot exist here in the US at rates not observed in comparable nations.

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I agree with the PP about ADHD: it doesn't exist.

I believe that far too many students are encouraged to apply to university, and that these students (and our economy) would be better served if schools and parents were allowed to acknowledge that not everyone is "smart", but that electricians, plumbers, and the like are honorable, valuable members of society who essential tasks, and there is nothing shameful about preparing for these careers if one is not academically inclined.

I'm a teacher. You would never guess my opinions on these matters if you knew me. I am great at learning/spouting the latest buzzwords and hyperbole, but inside I know that I (and the school system) is doing many children a great wrong. I would lose my job if I did not adhere to the prevailing attitudes and beliefs about education among my school's administration and parents. I feel really bad for several of my current high school seniors who have been placed firmly on the college path, and I know they will continue to struggle/probably fail in college. They would have made fine electricians or the like.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with the PP about ADHD: it doesn't exist.

I believe that far too many students are encouraged to apply to university, and that these students (and our economy) would be better served if schools and parents were allowed to acknowledge that not everyone is "smart", but that electricians, plumbers, and the like are honorable, valuable members of society who essential tasks, and there is nothing shameful about preparing for these careers if one is not academically inclined.

I'm a teacher. You would never guess my opinions on these matters if you knew me. I am great at learning/spouting the latest buzzwords and hyperbole, but inside I know that I (and the school system) is doing many children a great wrong. I would lose my job if I did not adhere to the prevailing attitudes and beliefs about education among my school's administration and parents. I feel really bad for several of my current high school seniors who have been placed firmly on the college path, and I know they will continue to struggle/probably fail in college. They would have made fine electricians or the like.

I support you 100%.

- also a HS teacher

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Anonymous wrote:I don't get the extreme vitriol for certain neighborhoods and communities in this area.

I also don't get what is so damn bad about big box retail and chain restaurants. Our location gives us access to a huge number of these and we feel lucky that we can take our pick of grocery stores/restaurants/stores. It's better than being stuck in a town where WalMart is your only option.

So do you like Chilis or PF Changs better?

PF Changs, although we prefer the Great American Restaurants over most of the nationwide chains

At least you didn't spout off about Applebee's, which is the standard attempt to put down the chains. We don't eat there all that often anyway.

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I used to think most ADHD was crap...until I had my first child and had to eat my words.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with the PP about ADHD: it doesn't exist.

I believe that far too many students are encouraged to apply to university, and that these students (and our economy) would be better served if schools and parents were allowed to acknowledge that not everyone is "smart", but that electricians, plumbers, and the like are honorable, valuable members of society who essential tasks, and there is nothing shameful about preparing for these careers if one is not academically inclined.

I'm a teacher. You would never guess my opinions on these matters if you knew me. I am great at learning/spouting the latest buzzwords and hyperbole, but inside I know that I (and the school system) is doing many children a great wrong. I would lose my job if I did not adhere to the prevailing attitudes and beliefs about education among my school's administration and parents. I feel really bad for several of my current high school seniors who have been placed firmly on the college path, and I know they will continue to struggle/probably fail in college. They would have made fine electricians or the like.

+1. And FWIW, I think electricians, plumbers, etc. are smart, just not in a "book smart" way associated with college bound kids. I am an attorney and feel totally flabbergasted by things like HVACs, electrical stuff, plumbing work, etc. In some ways, I am envious of people who can work with their hands and fix things. Maybe these types of workers aren't great at tests, but they still have to be knowledgable.

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Anonymous wrote:Spanish is an ugly language.

That is a strange opinion. Spanish is downright gorgeous, everything flows and the words often sound like dances

I hate the sound of German. It always sounds like the speaker is angry.

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I was looking at a new build house. When I came in a carpenter was building a small landing to the garage. When we ,eft about 15 minutes later it was finished. I wish I could create something useful that quickly.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with the PP about ADHD: it doesn't exist.

I believe that far too many students are encouraged to apply to university, and that these students (and our economy) would be better served if schools and parents were allowed to acknowledge that not everyone is "smart", but that electricians, plumbers, and the like are honorable, valuable members of society who essential tasks, and there is nothing shameful about preparing for these careers if one is not academically inclined.

I'm a teacher. You would never guess my opinions on these matters if you knew me. I am great at learning/spouting the latest buzzwords and hyperbole, but inside I know that I (and the school system) is doing many children a great wrong. I would lose my job if I did not adhere to the prevailing attitudes and beliefs about education among my school's administration and parents. I feel really bad for several of my current high school seniors who have been placed firmly on the college path, and I know they will continue to struggle/probably fail in college. They would have made fine electricians or the like.

I am not a teacher but in a profession where I see many kids. I too adopt the parental buzzwords and no one would ever know how sorry I am for their children. They are attention seeking as they respond so warmly to interest from me. Even engaging them for a few minutes while parents are doing something else wins them over. I think many children are manipulated by parents to feed into their own fears and neuroses rather than have real problems