Why do I not respect my boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

I feel terrible about it. Other women I know are in awe of, want to impress and respectful of their SOs.

My boyfriend is like my best friend. I don't worship him or think he's perfect. Sometimes I think he's annoying am childish.

It makes no sense why I am not in awe of him.

He's smart
Kind
Good looking
Popular and respected at his office
Works hard
Good with money

I'm just not...impressed? It's like no big deal? Why?

[Anonymous]

He probably has no backbone and lets you push him around. He's probably a beta and that's not sexy.

[Anonymous]

Do you want him to think well of you? That's important. But I am not awed by my DH because we're equals - we're both accomplished professionals and good people (we're modest, too!)

[Anonymous]

Respect has nothing to do with worship or awe.

[Anonymous]

I'm not in "awe" of my DH but I love him and respect him. I'm sure he is in awe of me but that's another issue!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Respect has nothing to do with worship or awe.

+1

I respect my DH but I'm not blind to his flaws and I certainly don't worship him. And that works both ways.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Respect has nothing to do with worship or awe.

+1

I respect my DH but I'm not blind to his flaws and I certainly don't worship him. And that works both ways.

Another who agrees. Respect in a relationship is about believing in the person's inherent value as a person, seeing them and their needs as important, treating them with kindness and dignity rather than abuse, etc.

[Anonymous]

I need a reason to respect my BF. Love and honor is different than respect. So his colleagues respect him, great? I mean he could work at a bank and have colleagues respect.

Respect comes in when strangers respect the man I love. Call it reverence, call it respect. But just being the guy who's d I like doesn't make him respect worthy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Respect has nothing to do with worship or awe.

+1

I respect my DH but I'm not blind to his flaws and I certainly don't worship him. And that works both ways.

+100.

Are you confusing "respect" with "subservient"?

[Anonymous]

The bigger question is why is he your boyfriend if you don't respect him? Sounds like time to move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel terrible about it. Other women I know are in awe of, want to impress and respectful of their SOs.

My boyfriend is like my best friend. I don't worship him or think he's perfect. Sometimes I think he's annoying am childish.

It makes no sense why I am not in awe of him.

He's smart
Kind
Good looking
Popular and respected at his office
Works hard
Good with money

I'm just not...impressed? It's like no big deal? Why?

In awe? I'm not sure I know of anyone who is in awe of their SO. Also not being respectful of someone is not the same thing as not respecting them. I'm really not sure what you are saying.

[Anonymous]

Op here. I think I'm confused.

I do respect my boyfriend. I adore him and value him as a person.

I guess I just think he's a normal person flaws and all. I know women who think their SOs are awe worthy. They look up to and revere them. I ...don't feel that way about mine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel terrible about it. Other women I know are in awe of, want to impress and respectful of their SOs.

My boyfriend is like my best friend. I don't worship him or think he's perfect. Sometimes I think he's annoying am childish.

It makes no sense why I am not in awe of him.

He's smart
Kind
Good looking
Popular and respected at his office
Works hard
Good with money

I'm just not...impressed? It's like no big deal? Why?

In awe? I'm not sure I know of anyone who is in awe of their SO. Also not being respectful of someone is not the same thing as not respecting them. I'm really not sure what you are saying.

+1. You can respect somebody without being in awe of them. In fact, I hope you are. You shouldn't be "in awe" of you SO.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He probably has no backbone and lets you push him around. He's probably a beta and that's not sexy.

Yep one of those feminists men. No one respects them.

[Anonymous]

At some level, you probably love the emotional charge you get from cocky dudes who treat you disrespectfully.