Why do I not respect my boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

If you don't respect him then get out of his life. Save him from your whining.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I do respect my boyfriend. I adore him and value him as a person. I guess I just think he's a normal person flaws and all.

This is normal and good.

Anonymous wrote:I know women who think their SOs are awe worthy. They look up to and revere them. I ...don't feel that way about mine.

This is not normal and weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I think I'm confused.

I do respect my boyfriend. I adore him and value him as a person.

I guess I just think he's a normal person flaws and all. I know women who think their SOs are awe worthy. They look up to and revere them. I ...don't feel that way about mine.

Maybe something is wrong with them (the awestruck) and not you. It's better if you have a realtionship where you both see each other's flaws and can accept them and the other person as is. That's honest.

What happens when the awed falls off the pedestal and the awestruck finds out they have human flaws after all? That actually sounds like a personality disorder in the awestruck.

[Anonymous]

The only women I know who are in awe of their significant others are t in healthy relationships. However, you can show that you respect him/are proud of him without fawning over him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I think I'm confused.

I do respect my boyfriend. I adore him and value him as a person.

I guess I just think he's a normal person flaws and all. I know women who think their SOs are awe worthy. They look up to and revere them. I ...don't feel that way about mine.

Huh? I respect my DH a great deal - he’s my favorite person in the world - but I’m not in awe of him, and I don’t revere him. I don’t think reverence has a place in a healthy relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I think I'm confused.

I do respect my boyfriend. I adore him and value him as a person.

I guess I just think he's a normal person flaws and all. I know women who think their SOs are awe worthy. They look up to and revere them. I ...don't feel that way about mine.

OP, you sound really naive and sheltered.

Do you really have the expectation you should find your boyfriend awe-worthy?

Of COURSE he's a real person. We all are. You should respect and love and support each other, but it's actually a red flag if one of the partners puts the other on a pedestal. It will crumble sooner or later!

[Anonymous]

DTMFA

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I think I'm confused.

I do respect my boyfriend. I adore him and value him as a person.

I guess I just think he's a normal person flaws and all. I know women who think their SOs are awe worthy. They look up to and revere them. I ...don't feel that way about mine.

Those friends are weird. You should not revere another person like that--they are only human, and they have flaws like any other human. Plus, if one person is in awe of the other, there's going to be an imbalance in the relationship. If you love and respect your boyfriend, knowing that he's not perfect, then you have a better foundation for a good relationship than someone who puts their SO on a pedestal.

[Anonymous]

Maybe it's a lack of sexual dimorphism?

Does a More Equal Marriage Mean Less Sex?

https://www.nytimes.com/2014/02/09/magazine/does-a-more-equal-marriage-mean-less-sex.html

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He probably has no backbone and lets you push him around. He's probably a beta and that's not sexy.

Yep one of those feminists men. No one respects them.

Oh is that how the feminist man is? No backbone betas? I thought tnat was just conservative talk radio BS. No idea that was actually the profile of a feminist man.

[Anonymous]

I think people have unrealistic expectations about what being in a relationship is all about. The 'knight in shining armor" is not real life. You can respect your SO without being in awe of them. There should be a give and take. Your SO doesn't want you to disregard his opinions all the time in the same way that you want him to consider your thoughts as well. If you respect his values and his lifestyle that is what is important.

[Anonymous]

Is he not f4cking you hard enough?

[Anonymous]

How old are you OP? Sorry, but what you are stating is rather immature thinking.

[Anonymous]

How would we know?