Do you care if everyone finds you attractive?

[Anonymous]

I hav a friend who is obsessed with having to have everyone find her attractive. I care more about what the person I'm dating thinks rather than the general population. She has told me it's human nature to what to be found attractive by everyone. I don't think it is.

[Anonymous]

Nope!

[Anonymous]

I got used to it.

[Anonymous]

I couldn't care less.

[Anonymous]

Guy here. I like feeling like I'm the best version of myself. It feels good to be fit and dressed nice. Also, I don't want my wife to have to screw someone she's not attracted to. But, I've never needed the public at large to find me attractive and what's the point anyway? There's always someone better looking than you no matter who you are.

[Anonymous]

No. I'm overweight right now but when I'm at my best I get a lot of male attention and it actually makes me super uncomfortable. I like knowing I can turn heads if I put effort into it, but not actually turning them all the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. I like feeling like I'm the best version of myself. It feels good to be fit and dressed nice. Also, I don't want my wife to have to screw someone she's not attracted to. But, I've never needed the public at large to find me attractive and what's the point anyway? There's always someone better looking than you no matter who you are.

Very true. No mater who you are, there will always be someone more attractive, successful, and smarter than you. That is life. Focus on the person you are with, and what they think of you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. I like feeling like I'm the best version of myself. It feels good to be fit and dressed nice. Also, I don't want my wife to have to screw someone she's not attracted to. But, I've never needed the public at large to find me attractive and what's the point anyway? There's always someone better looking than you no matter who you are.

Female here, and I agree with this.

[Anonymous]

Yes I like it when people find me attractive, especially my husband.

I've noticed that when I'm wearing makeup I get a lot of attention and random help (like door holding from strangers). When I'm looking ugly people ignore me basically and I feel bad about myself.

[Anonymous]

nope

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I got used to it.

Lol.

Honestly, it always made me feel uncomfortable. And the amount of effort I could put into it seems like a black hole, the more people try the more desperate they seem.

But even with that, I still get jealous when I meet someone truly beautiful. I’m a hypocrite, I guess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes I like it when people find me attractive, especially my husband.

I've noticed that when I'm wearing makeup I get a lot of attention and random help (like door holding from strangers). When I'm looking ugly people ignore me basically and I feel bad about myself.

So you think you are ugly without make-up?

[Anonymous]

No. I don't want anyone to think I'm gross or slovenly, but I don't care if anyone other than DH is affirmatively attracted to me.

[Anonymous]

It was somewhat important to me as a teenager and college student, but definitely not as an adult. The older I get, the less I care about that kind of thing. I like to take care of myself and look pulled together, but it's more about being my best self than having people find me attractive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. I'm overweight right now but when I'm at my best I get a lot of male attention and it actually makes me super uncomfortable. I like knowing I can turn heads if I put effort into it, but not actually turning them all the time.

Oh, so true! When I was single and out with friends, sure, the attention was nice in that setting. But when I'm walking to the Metro or just going about my day, I hate it. Once I got married and had kids, I hated it even more (although admittedly, it doesn't happen as often now).