Do you care if everyone finds you attractive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope and No.

Except for my husband.

[Anonymous]

I like being not ugly, people are just nicer. I am not willing to put in the effort to be "hot" though. Reasonably pretty is good enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes I like it when people find me attractive, especially my husband.

I've noticed that when I'm wearing makeup I get a lot of attention and random help (like door holding from strangers). When I'm looking ugly people ignore me basically and I feel bad about myself.

That's so interesting. I have a similar experience except that I like being invisible! I hate when people look at me, so unless I am going somewhere special I keep things minimal.

[Anonymous]

The people who say they only care about looking good for their husband...

My friends who say that don't put any effort into their appearance and look like crap but their husbands are of course not going to say this to their faces.

"Oh but he says he prefers me au naturel." Of course he says that. But he's lying. Duh.

If you ACTUALLY look good for your husband, that means you put in effort and other people will think you look good too.

[Anonymous]

Attractive does not equal not putting effort into appearances.

[Anonymous]

Mostly, I just care that she stays in shape. I don't care so much about, nails, makeup, plucking everything, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mostly, I just care that she stays in shape. I don't care so much about, nails, makeup, plucking everything, etc.

The thread wasn't "men, what do you find attractive," that's every other thread on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

now that I'm 47, I'm content if someone realizes I actually exist.

Hmm. My two best friends from work are in their 50's, and still look pretty cute to me!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hav a friend who is obsessed with having to have everyone find her attractive. I care more about what the person I'm dating thinks rather than the general population. She has told me it's human nature to what to be found attractive by everyone. I don't think it is.

That wouldn't work for me. DH finds me attractive and that is all I need (or got). .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. I like feeling like I'm the best version of myself. It feels good to be fit and dressed nice. Also, I don't want my wife to have to screw someone she's not attracted to. But, I've never needed the public at large to find me attractive and what's the point anyway? There's always someone better looking than you no matter who you are.

Kind of like this. I like it when I'm the best version of myself, but for myself only not for anybody else.