Reusing inherited stone
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Anonymous
| I inherited a gorgeous one-carat diamond from my grandmother, and had it reset for my first engagement ring. He cheated, we divorced, and now I'm in a relationship that seems headed to marriage. Is it totally non-kosher to reuse the diamond for my next ring? |
Anonymous
| You are the diamond. Best wishes in your new setting! |
Anonymous
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I don't see anything wrong with resetting an heirloom stone for your engagement ring. It's not like the diamond belonged to your ex's grandmother.
I'd get a new setting and see if the jeweler can change it up a bit, just so it feels brand new to you. Congratulations! |
Anonymous
| It's still meaningful to you. Plus, this may sound a bit silly, but coming from someone who's a bit superstitious -- if this marriage goes well then I feel like it can be passed down again, whereas I think people would be less likely to want an heirloom ring/stone that was last used in a marriage that ended in divorce. This new marriage will cleanse the taint of the last one from the ring. |
Anonymous
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I would want my fiance to buy me an egagement ring. Sorry, but the whole process of him researching, talking to you about what you like and thoughtfully giving you the ring and asking you to get married is reflective of the care and attention he might give you in life and his (literal) investment in you.
Have the stone made into another piece of jewellry for yourself. |
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Anonymous
and what, pray tell, are you doing for him that equates to this? |
Anonymous
| She presumably allows him to have sex with her on a regular basis. |
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Anonymous
| It's fine |
Anonymous
Post of the day!! Well said! |
Anonymous
NP here, and I think that's a really sweet thing to say. Also, it makes sense to re-use a diamond, since it's a family stone. Perhaps set it with a sapphire or other colored stone of value? Your fiance can pay for the new setting. Win-win. |
Anonymous
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At the end of the day it is really how you and your potential fiancé feel about it. However, since you are polling DCUM, if it were me, I would want to be able to use the heirloom diamond, yet have it different enough that it doesn't remind me of my ex and was really shaped by my potential fiancé. It just feels weird to me to give the guy the ring to propose to me ...and that point I might as well propose to him. I wouldn't want to risk any new setting being like the old yet would want to be surprised with the final ring. I really like the PP suggestion of using colored stone of some value. I don't see that everyday and it would be different. Also you would have something old, something new, and something blue if sapphires were the accent stone.
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Anonymous
| Restyle it as a right hand ring. |
Anonymous
And presumably he allows her to have sex with him ... that's not a transaction where she is the seller and he is the buyer. OP, enjoy your diamond however you would like and your man whenever you both would care to. 
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