I've been terrible to my wonderful husband

[Anonymous]

I love my husband so much. I have been treating him terribly due to my own anxiety, neurosis and depression. I said some terrible things to him and I am afraid I am losing him.

I am so sad. It's all my fault. I pushed him and pushed him until he cracked.

[Anonymous]

You need to tell him exactly what you wrote here, then.

[Anonymous]

Then tell him this and STOP IT. Seek help. Don't be someone who just keeps doing this and not changing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Then tell him this and STOP IT. Seek help. Don't be someone who just keeps doing this and not changing.

I feel terrible. I am crazy. I literally drove him insane. I don't know how he puts up with me. I destroy everything good in my life.

[Anonymous]

You may not be able to control how you feel, but you can control how you act. Decide you will ACT the way that will make him love you. Just start there. There is other good advice coming, but OP, just start with that one little thing.

[Anonymous]

So tell him sincerely.

Then call your therapist tonight.

If you don't have one call your pop and start looking tonight.

Stop with your poor me I'm crazy pity party and get some help.

Because he shouldn't put up with your abuse and one day he'll realize that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So tell him sincerely.

Then call your therapist tonight.

If you don't have one call your pop and start looking tonight.

Stop with your poor me I'm crazy pity party and get some help.

Because he shouldn't put up with your abuse and one day he'll realize that.

I actually am crazy and self destructive. He is realizing how wonderful he is and how I mistreat him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So tell him sincerely.

Then call your therapist tonight.

If you don't have one call your pop and start looking tonight.

Stop with your poor me I'm crazy pity party and get some help.

Because he shouldn't put up with your abuse and one day he'll realize that.

I actually am crazy and self destructive. He is realizing how wonderful he is and how I mistreat him.

OP, do you have a therapist? PP is correct. You need to work on yourself. Guilt is not very useful if it doesn't lead you to try to change.

[Anonymous]

Why are you telling us? We don't love you. If you want to change, start now. The only thing you can control is you.

[Anonymous]

Why do you think that you're mean to him? What have you done that you think is bad?

[Anonymous]

Fake post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Fake post.

+1, women don't talk like that. They don't even form thoughts like that, lol. Total troll.

[Anonymous]

Stop with the frigging "poor me, I'm crazy" pity party. It's insincere and still putting YOUR feelings above his. If you actually want to make a change, get a therapist. No one feels bad for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Fake post.

+1, women don't talk like that. They don't even form thoughts like that, lol. Total troll.

Stop being such a bully. How do you know if OP is sincere? My DH battles a genetic predisposition to depression and some other mental health issues, and that is EXACTLY how he talks. If you have nothing nice or supportive to say, STFU. No one made you the fake post police. Even if the post were fake, you never know who might stumble upon these forums at a dark time. Be a light to others who are struggling.

OP, please find help and share your feelings with your husband.

[Anonymous]

Op you are depressed and you need help. Yes you need to tell him this but you can't fix your relationship until you get your depression under control. Trust me, I've been there. Just find a therapist and a psychiatrist and work on yourself.