I've been terrible to my wonderful husband

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop with the frigging "poor me, I'm crazy" pity party. It's insincere and still putting YOUR feelings above his. If you actually want to make a change, get a therapist. No one feels bad for you.

+1. The "woe is me" bit is useless. What are you *doing* to fix this?

[Anonymous]

I think you may need to pull out the blow jobs after the apology. So to sum up, apology, blow job, continued blow jobs for a while before slowly phasing them out, and stop doing the terrible things and instead do other nice things (in addition to the blow jobs).

It sounds funny, but I'm not kidding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Fake post.

+1, women don't talk like that. They don't even form thoughts like that, lol. Total troll.

Sounds fake to me too. Or insincere at the very least. The responses are still all about "me, me, me".

[Anonymous]

Bipolar, OP? Please seek medical help. Your husband, unless he is a doctor, cannot help you as much as a doctor can. Your husband can accompany you to the doctor, to give his version of events.

[Anonymous]

Oh, so now that you're going to lose him you want to change?

[Anonymous]

If he's so wonderful, why didn't he get you help long ago.
too busy? not looking after you at all?

[Anonymous]

Get on mere immediately; see a therapist.. immediately.

[Anonymous]

Just telling him "it's all my fault, and "I'm self-destructive" and "I'm crazy" isn't going to cut it anymore, because it doesn't make the behavior okay, or excuse it. Its not a reason for your DH to fall into your arms and forgive you, no matter how much empathy he might have for what you're going through - but it IS the first step, and now you need to get help and work very hard to change this pattern.

[Anonymous]

Have you been tested for borderline personality disorder?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If he's so wonderful, why didn't he get you help long ago.
too busy? not looking after you at all?

nice, the victim shaming just got started. seriously, STFU and GTFO

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love my husband so much. I have been treating him terribly due to my own anxiety, neurosis and depression. I said some terrible things to him and I am afraid I am losing him.

I am so sad. It's all my fault. I pushed him and pushed him until he cracked.

I have been here and could have written this, OP. My wonderful husband has been really patient with stuff he just shouldn't ever have had to put up with. Therapy, for you. And a commitment expressed to your husband to change the behavior.

I say that knowing first hand it is not nearly as easy as it sounds written down in a couple of sentence fragments. Therapy to deal with our issues, whatever they are, is hard and exhausting and painful sometimes, and leaves me, for one, pretty raw. But it's worth it. Much love.

[Anonymous]

Go to therapy, get on meds.

When you find yourself lashing out you have to STOP that behavior in its tracks. You are the only one who can stop yourself.

[Anonymous]

DH treats me this way. Then he apologizes over and over about how horrible he is. Actions speak louder than words. I cant spend my time building him up after he feels guilty for his behavior.
Apologies mean nothing without change.

[Anonymous]

I am in a relationship like this and I am the one on the receiving end of the bad behavior. I am pretty much at the end of my rope and ready to walk! I suggest you take a long hard look at yourself and seek the help it sounds like you need. You will loose your husband if you stay on this path.

[Anonymous]

While I think this is troll it is actually a quintessential example of emotionally abusive behavior: batter your spouse, then launch into a pity party about how hurt you are, where you're the one to be consoled rather than the victim. If you are real you are absolute scum and deserve the worst in life.