Meeting DH's friend for a coffee

[Anonymous]

We have a good family friend. He was my DH's friend before becoming my friend too. He has had some childhood trauma and is living with consequences of it now. He told the story to my husband. He now wants to tell me the same story too. He invited me for a coffee. DH knows about this and is ok with it. The friend is definitely not attracted to me or anything like that. Is it morally wrong if I meet up with him?

[Anonymous]

No he's your friend. Are you worried he's going to proposition you?

[Anonymous]

It's okay to make a decision for yourself you know. It's absolutely fine in fact.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No he's your friend. Are you worried he's going to proposition you?

Not worried about that at all; I am overweight. Just wondering what other's think of that or if they would meet up with a family friend of an opposite sex alone.

[Anonymous]

Huh? Why? Your DH is fine with it. He's not inappropriate with you. I don't get where you're coming from.

[Anonymous]

Um yes it's fine. Your husband knows. Leave or don't go if you're uncomfortable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No he's your friend. Are you worried he's going to proposition you?

Not worried about that at all; I am overweight. Just wondering what other's think of that or if they would meet up with a family friend of an opposite sex alone.

Are you Mike Pence's wife or something? If so, you're really not overweight.

[Anonymous]

Mother?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No he's your friend. Are you worried he's going to proposition you?

Not worried about that at all; I am overweight. Just wondering what other's think of that or if they would meet up with a family friend of an opposite sex alone.

Are you Mike Pence's wife or something? If so, you're really not overweight.

Lol - yes, I am around that size. My BMI is 26-27, so clinically I am overweight.

[Anonymous]

OP, what defines and guides your moral code?

Most moral codes care about not harming others. How could this type of meeting possibly harm anyone?

If it's not about harm, what's it about that gives you pause?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, what defines and guides your moral code?

Most moral codes care about not harming others. How could this type of meeting possibly harm anyone?

If it's not about harm, what's it about that gives you pause?

OP here - That he asked me to meet with him alone. He did tell the story to my husband about 100 times already but not to me. Perhaps, he feels that DH will be bored hearing it again. The friend is a bit quirky, so I think I will assign it to that.

[Anonymous]

It goes against the letter and spirit of your marriage vows. Call it off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It goes against the letter and spirit of your marriage vows. Call it off.

This. Death to infidels!

J/K I don't understand the question. You have a friend who wants to meet for coffee. Also you are overweight which is somehow relevant. What's the problem?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have a good family friend. He was my DH's friend before becoming my friend too. He has had some childhood trauma and is living with consequences of it now. He told the story to my husband. He now wants to tell me the same story too. He invited me for a coffee. DH knows about this and is ok with it. The friend is definitely not attracted to me or anything like that. Is it morally wrong if I meet up with him?

I suspect it is difficult for him to share his story to more than one person at a time.

Why in the world would you think this was not OK (unless YOU are attracted to HIM?) ... i think the issue must lie within you.

[Anonymous]

Just stick to basic black coffee, and avoid those high calorie frapachino things.