Does he like me?

[Anonymous]

Stupid question I know, but I'm back to dating after 3 years of being single. Met a man, hit it off, used to text me all the time, now calls only once a day. He hasn't even asked to go out to dinner or anything.I don't text or call him because I don't want to look "eager". We've been talking for over a month now. I know he has flexibility to text and call at his job. Should I just play it day-day or just drop him and date other people?

[Anonymous]

Drop and date other people, now! He is not into you. If a person (male, female or any gender in between ) likes you, they will show their interest in more than a lukewarm fashion. Sorry and good luck.

[Anonymous]

Drop and date other people, now! He is not into you. If a person (male, female or any gender in between ) likes you, they will show their interest in more than a lukewarm fashion. Sorry and good luck.

[Anonymous]

If you feel compelled to talk to other men and date other people then go for it. You don't have to get permission from dude. Hell you can have an enjoyable evening with 3 different guys 3 nights in a row - dinner with John, dancing with James, and go-cart racing with Josh - if you want to you're more than welcome to live your life as you wish.

Now if you aren't capable of casually dating numerous people, if you're one of those types who has to be hyper-focused on one person at a time then I'd say drop him.

[Anonymous]

He's either not into you (but keeping you as a backup) or he's a mess on wheels who can't even follow up adequately on his interest in someone. Either way, move on.

When a guy is into you, you won't have to post on DCUM to find out whether he's interested.

[Anonymous]

Are you seriously asking why his texts/calls have dropped off while admitting that you don't text/call him because you don't want to seem eager??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you seriously asking why his texts/calls have dropped off while admitting that you don't text/call him because you don't want to seem eager??

She's not going to see the reality of the fact that she's directly contributing to his waning interest - she's gone, La-La Land. Her thoughts are totally immersed in her imagination right now.

[Anonymous]

OP here, I've always thought that if a man likes you, he should reach out to you, you shouldn't have to reach out to them. Shouldn't he make a move?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, I've always thought that if a man likes you, he should reach out to you, you shouldn't have to reach out to them. Shouldn't he make a move?

Do you like him? If so, make a move. When it's the right person there aren't any stupid rules.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you seriously asking why his texts/calls have dropped off while admitting that you don't text/call him because you don't want to seem eager??

She's not going to see the reality of the fact that she's directly contributing to his waning interest - she's gone, La-La Land. Her thoughts are totally immersed in her imagination right now.

I mean, really, I'm surprised he's still calling her at all. If he were my friend, I'd tell him to stop wasting his time with someone who's clearly not interested. Or, even worse, into playing mind games by trying not to seem eager. Geez.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, I've always thought that if a man likes you, he should reach out to you, you shouldn't have to reach out to them. Shouldn't he make a move?

NEWSFLASH: There are different types of men in the world.
So...if the guy you're seeing isn't abiding by the rules of chivalry that you're accustomed to then FIND ANOTHER ONE WHO DOES.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, I've always thought that if a man likes you, he should reach out to you, you shouldn't have to reach out to them. Shouldn't he make a move?

Yes, in the 1950's. But, even in that scenario, that rule should only apply to first date or two. After that, if only one person is driving the relationship, it's doomed to fail.

[Anonymous]

He's not into you and he is just kind of keeping you on the back burner and stringing you along just in case. Drop him and move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, I've always thought that if a man likes you, he should reach out to you, you shouldn't have to reach out to them. Shouldn't he make a move?

Yes, in the 1950's. But, even in that scenario, that rule should only apply to first date or two. After that, if only one person is driving the relationship, it's doomed to fail.

[Anonymous]

The other possibility is that he's married or in a serious relationship. Either way, move on.