Sooo I just did something and now I'm nervous.

[Anonymous]

WOW... just WOW!!

From henceforth you MUST follow the NO CONTACT rule.

[Roar]

Ripping up photo alone doesn't arise to harassment or imminent harm level. Get counseling, because you need to get YOURSELF right -- forget about him.

Something you did or didn't do prompted the cheating. You need to get this out and get yourself ready for your next success.

Make sure you also work out. The more you stress about ripping up a picture, the more he still owns you.

[Anonymous]

Haha oh man. I will admit to having had momentary urges to do something like this, but for obvious reasons would never follow through (reasons you now feel as well, I know). I won't sugarcoat it, this is not great...but not for any legal reasons or anything. Just makes you look kind of crazy (not that you don't have good reason to FEEL kind of crazy), but I agree there is no step you can take at this point that would make it any better. The best thing you can do is absolutely nothing, seriously. Don't beat yourself up too much, just try to treat it as a learning experience and move forward...cut your losses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do not think it is a threat. If he would go to police, I don't think a commissioner would have enough to charge you with anything. Let it alone.

That's what I thought too...but I'm just nervous SHE may try to press charges or get a restraining order.

If you didn't address the envelope to her, not a darn thing to worry about.

[Anonymous]

I am embarrassed for you.

[Anonymous]

This is really no big deal. Does it make you look a little psycho? Yes. Does it mean you ARE psycho? No. I challenge everyone on here to say they've NEVER done something a little crazy after a break-up or big argument. Once after a huge morning fight with my DH, he went to the car but left his suit jacket on the back of a chair. I slid it off, stomped on it, and left it there. Was I an asshole? Yes. But doing something a little crazy sometimes can be liberating. Your ex sounds like a real mother f*cker, btw.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Long story semi short... my ex and I had a volatile breakup. He cheated on me then ghosted me to end the relationship. I'm still extremely hurt, depressed, sad, angry - everything over it. Whiiiich is why I did this stupid thing. I ripped a photograph of him as a little kid that he loved and threw out the piece with his face, and mailed the pieces in an envelope to his house. Now I'm slightly concerned it might be perceived as a threat (by her, the woman he left me for- who just moved in to his house with her kids)

Yes or no: should I email him, "hey heads up I just put in the mail something of yours that I just don't want anymore - it means nothing else" ?

Also yes I know it was immature, mean, and I'm sure I'll even get some psycho comments. My friend tried to talk me out of it. But...whatever

I think it's funny. Move on he's a creep. Not that big of a deal. You overthinking it is occupying space in your brain. Be thankful he cheated and hopefully you learn to pick better next time, or stay single for awhile.

[Anonymous]

Gurl, you cray!

[Anonymous]

Omg this is the craziest thing I have read in a long time.
How old are you OP?

[Anonymous]

Have you done anything else besides this that would cause his GF to feel threatened? Since you're so concerned about her reaction, I have a hunch this isn't an isolated incident...

[Anonymous]

How do you know all this stuff about his life - he has a new GF, she moved in, she has kids, etc... You must be keeping internet tabs? Stop doing that.

But yea, this was nuts. If I were the ex-gf I'd probably have him confront you and in no uncertain terms threaten legal action if you so much as walk past him on the street again. So expect that, I guess.

If she contacts you herself, say "I'm very sorry it was a terrible lapse in judgement. I don't mean to frighten you and I'll never come near you or him again." You deserve to feel embarrassed and you should definitely not go near them again, regardless of what comes of this.

[Anonymous]

^ oops - ex gf means current gf

[Anonymous]

1. No way could this be construed as a threat.

2. Stop interacting with this guy.

[Anonymous]

The thing about it which could be interpreted as threatening was removing the face from the pieces of the picture that were ripped up. Is that why you are nervous? What message were you trying to send by throwing away that part of the picture and mailing the rest of it to hin?@

[Anonymous]

You should be fine if you stop contacting him.