Bad feeling - listen to it?

[Anonymous]

I'm new to this, but am headed back to work soon and have to find care for my six-month-old. I toured a daycare and, while nothing was glaringly wrong, I jut had a bad feeling about the place. Is that me being overprotective? Or should I listen to my gut?

[Anonymous]

I believe in the gut.

[Anonymous]

Yes listen

[Anonymous]

Absolutely LISTEN to your gut- I toured several preschools and several of them gave me bad feelings. Maybe because I felt a sort of cold institutional vibe. The one I liked the best was the one that wasn't fancy, rented their small space from a Church in fact -but I felt warmth there and you could just tell the director was very passionate about early childhood education. So you can't really judge these centers by their facilities or fancy offerings. You just have to step foot into the place and you'll know pretty fast if it feels right. Anyways- keep looking!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely LISTEN to your gut- I toured several preschools and several of them gave me bad feelings. Maybe because I felt a sort of cold institutional vibe. The one I liked the best was the one that wasn't fancy, rented their small space from a Church in fact -but I felt warmth there and you could just tell the director was very passionate about early childhood education. So you can't really judge these centers by their facilities or fancy offerings. You just have to step foot into the place and you'll know pretty fast if it feels right. Anyways- keep looking!!

This is an absolute crock. Do you feel better that you placed your child in a sub standard daycare now? Please. Warmth is fine but it is not an exception for quality health and safety of a center and good academy programming. Give up the charade. Sometimes your gut is wrong.

[Anonymous]

Listen to your gut!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely LISTEN to your gut- I toured several preschools and several of them gave me bad feelings. Maybe because I felt a sort of cold institutional vibe. The one I liked the best was the one that wasn't fancy, rented their small space from a Church in fact -but I felt warmth there and you could just tell the director was very passionate about early childhood education. So you can't really judge these centers by their facilities or fancy offerings. You just have to step foot into the place and you'll know pretty fast if it feels right. Anyways- keep looking!!

This is an absolute crock. Do you feel better that you placed your child in a sub standard daycare now? Please. Warmth is fine but it is not an exception for quality health and safety of a center and good academy programming. Give up the charade. Sometimes your gut is wrong.

Who said it was sub standard? There are plenty of excellent preschools in churches.

[Anonymous]

What are you worried about? Be specific. Choosing a daycare is stressful and scary, no matter what.

[Anonymous]

LISTEN TO YOUR GUT- and don't listen to someone that tells you otherwise. Also - look for a center that is play based and likes to follow the child's lead to some degree. I personally would avoid ones that focus too much on academics.

[Anonymous]

Hmmm....tour a few more. If ALL of them are giving you a "bad feeling," please consider that the issue may be standard jitters about returning to work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm new to this, but am headed back to work soon and have to find care for my six-month-old. I toured a daycare and, while nothing was glaringly wrong, I jut had a bad feeling about the place. Is that me being overprotective? Or should I listen to my gut?

OP to find out whether it's your gut reacting to that particular daycare or leaving your baby in general, have you toured multiple sites already?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hmmm....tour a few more. If ALL of them are giving you a "bad feeling," please consider that the issue may be standard jitters about returning to work.

Good idea

[Anonymous]

Yes! Definitely listen to your gut. I pulled DD out of a home daycare after giving deposit and in my second unannounced visit, I saw things that were not huge problems but made me uncomfortable. There was a general unhappy feeling. DH said I will not be satisfied, no place is good enough as it was the second place I took her out. She hasn't started in any of these places yet. I started to doubt myself and guess what I was right! A couple of weeks later, the county updated its inspections and there were numerous violations including the provider was not at home and there was only the assistant. My intuition was right! Never dismiss a mother's intuition.

[Anonymous]

One of my life mottos is "Listen to your nags."

If something is nagging at you, don't discount it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hmmm....tour a few more. If ALL of them are giving you a "bad feeling," please consider that the issue may be standard jitters about returning to work.

Good idea

Ditto. You have to know whether it is this place in particular.