I forgot about someone and now they are back

[Anonymous]

After reading about the need to forget someone thread, I recently had someone come back into my life after that person broke my heart years ago. I know this person reached out before healing and told me there is a possible relationship if I play the "friend" card again. What would you do if you were in my shoes and were available?

[Anonymous]

I'd forget about them again. There's lots of people out there.

[Anonymous]

This recently happened to me too. We talked for about a month, went on a few dates, and just as I was opening myself up to him and the possibility of a relationship, he demonstrated he had not really changed, so I ended it.

I sort of hate myself for falling for his crap again, and I wish I had shut it down immediately.

But obviously, YMMV.

[Anonymous]

The sad thing is deep down I never forgot about this person.

[Anonymous]

Block their means of contact and carry on.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you forgot about Chucky, but Chucky didn't forget about you!

[Anonymous]

OP here. FWIW I am a guy and purposely didn't mention gender until now. Thought the responses would be geared towards the female again as DCUM is predictable. Yes there are men out there who fall in love and get hurt too. Now what would you do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. FWIW I am a guy and purposely didn't mention gender until now. Thought the responses would be geared towards the female again as DCUM is predictable. Yes there are men out there who fall in love and get hurt too. Now what would you do?

You thought the responses were geared towards a female OP?

Whatever, OP. The advice remains the same. Let this one go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. FWIW I am a guy and purposely didn't mention gender until now. Thought the responses would be geared towards the female again as DCUM is predictable. Yes there are men out there who fall in love and get hurt too. Now what would you do?

OP, none of the responses assume you are female and would apply to both male and female. There are a lot of people out there. Forget them. Block their means of contact and carry on.

Here's my response: Because they already reached out before you were completely over them and told you that there's a possibility of a relationship if you play the "friend" card tells me that they are using you and playing you and will never fully love you like you did them. It's a mean thing to do to someone - tell them "if you just be friends with me, I MIGHT take you back for a full relationship." It's making you work for something over and over again that may never happen.

So, I'll repeat: Forget them. Block their means of contacting you and carry on. There are a lot more people out there that are more worthy of you than your ex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This recently happened to me too. We talked for about a month, went on a few dates, and just as I was opening myself up to him and the possibility of a relationship, he demonstrated he had not really changed, so I ended it.

I sort of hate myself for falling for his crap again, and I wish I had shut it down immediately.

But obviously, YMMV.

your mileage may vary?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:After reading about the need to forget someone thread, I recently had someone come back into my life after that person broke my heart years ago. I know this person reached out before healing and told me there is a possible relationship if I play the "friend" card again. What would you do if you were in my shoes and were available?

Sorry dude I knew you were a guy because what male ex would string someone along in such a dumb way...? only men play the 'friend' to get some ass... with women using the friendship to make you feel like something could happen... and you don't need friendship or ass that bad, I am sure.

Distance yourself and move far along.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This recently happened to me too. We talked for about a month, went on a few dates, and just as I was opening myself up to him and the possibility of a relationship, he demonstrated he had not really changed, so I ended it.

I sort of hate myself for falling for his crap again, and I wish I had shut it down immediately.

But obviously, YMMV.

your mileage may vary?

Yes. Maybe the person who reached out to OP has truly changed, and maybe they will have a beautiful life together.

[Anonymous]

You two may be soulmates. It would be a shame if you were and went through life not finding out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. FWIW I am a guy and purposely didn't mention gender until now. Thought the responses would be geared towards the female again as DCUM is predictable. Yes there are men out there who fall in love and get hurt too. Now what would you do?

OP, none of the responses assume you are female and would apply to both male and female. There are a lot of people out there. Forget them. Block their means of contact and carry on.

Here's my response: Because they already reached out before you were completely over them and told you that there's a possibility of a relationship if you play the "friend" card tells me that they are using you and playing you and will never fully love you like you did them. It's a mean thing to do to someone - tell them "if you just be friends with me, I MIGHT take you back for a full relationship." It's making you work for something over and over again that may never happen.

So, I'll repeat: Forget them. Block their means of contacting you and carry on. There are a lot more people out there that are more worthy of you than your ex.

Completely agree. Manipulative to tantalize you like that, and mean. She's no prize, but that was lucky she came back around to show you her true colors and set your free for a better future, no regrets.

[Anonymous]

"WHO???

Oh, him!

I'd completely forgotten all about him.

So he's back. Big whoop. I've moved on now."

This is what you should be thinking, OP.
Repeat this to yourself.