Sex without a relationship - FWB question.
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Anonymous
| I'm divorcing and do NOT want to date. I do want to have sex, however. How do you create a FWB situation? Thanks. |
Anonymous
| It's really hard and I don't recommend it. Someone always gets hurt. |
Anonymous
| Heh if you're female, all you gotta do is go into a bar and hike up your dress. Presto, instant "sex without commitment"... |
Anonymous
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If you are a woman, just put an ad on a dating site that says you want fun and sex but nothing serious. You will have unlimited options.
If you are a man, you need to be gay to do this. Ok, if you are really handsome and successful you can do this. |
Anonymous
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I hear they make realistic blowup dolls these days.
You can even dress them up and bring them on trips. https://www.google.com/amp/www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/obsessed-man-takes-sex-doll-8782271.amp |
Anonymous
| FWB is a relationship. You just want casual sex it seems. I second the pp with trying online and saying you're not looking for anything serious. |
Anonymous
| I don't recommend it but here's what worked for me. Find someone younger and from a conservative culture. I did this with an Indian guy. His parents were not supportive of him marrying a non Indian. We had so much fun together and I learned a lot from him. We grew really close though so be careful. |
Anonymous
OP here. Maybe I'm old school but I'm a little skeeved out by the online thing. Also, I don't want to just sleep around - don't have the energy to anyway - but would like an arrangement where I'm able to sleep with someone consistently. I'm a woman FWIW. |
Anonymous
| Make up a unique email account solely for this purpose and post it here and on other sites you think may be more selective than craigslist. I am sure several DCUM men in a similar situation will respond. Email back and forth until you are comfortable enough to talk on the phone or meet in person. |
Anonymous
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I met my first FWB on Bumble. He was eight years younger than me and no one I could ever see myself with long term which is probably why it worked so well. He was a ton of fun but he ultimately found a girlfriend- he was looking for something more than I was.
Current guy I met on OKCupid. Just morphed into a FWB situation although it started by us actually dating. We weren't the right people for each other but the sex is good and neither of us have the time to devote to an actual relationship so it works for now. I disagree that someone will always get hurt but sometimes you need to check yourself to keep the feelings away. Amd be prepared to either walk away or for the other person to walk away if it stops working for you or them. |
Anonymous
| OkCupid is the way to go. But it is true that for something to last beyond a couple of months, it means someone will get hurt. My fwb post divorce hurt more than the divorce itself when it ended. I had developed feelings over the three years we were fwb. Funny thing is we never did anything other than sex. The good news is that 6mths after it ended, it looks like we may have the friendship part (no sex). I am happy with that. We met at crossroads--both just divorced. |
Anonymous
| So you want regular sex with one person, without having to go on dates? Is monogamy important? |
Anonymous
I'm not the OP but that's what I was looking for. Someone to have sex with without having to date or get emotionally close. Personally I have to be in a monogamous FWB situation. The men I've been with seem to be looking for the same thing. Theyre sick of dropping tons of money on dates that don't go anywhere, aren't looking for anything serious and also have a lack of time between work, custody and hobbies. It's win, win if you can find someone on the same page. My current FWB probably won't last much longer because I think he's starting to look down the road to an actual relationship. |
Anonymous
| Do you have any single male friends? They may be in the same boat as you. That's how I found my FWB. |
Anonymous
Your married male friends are (a) probably not getting enough sex, and (b) very interested in sex without a relationship. Just sayin' |