So tired I can't take it anymore (kids 5 and almost 1). What can I do?
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I am completely exhausted. I normally go to bed around 10-11 and wake up around 6. The baby sleeps through the night, so I can't blame it on that, but I am just beyond exhausted all. the. time. I seriously think I am running some kind of crazy sleep deficit. The problem is that I can't even sleep in, because on the VERY limited occasions when my husband lets me catch up on sleep, they make so much noise that it is not possible. On mother's day I ended up sleeping in until 7:55, for example. I could try to go back to sleep when the nanny takes over and the 5yo goes to camp/school, but by then I've been up for 3 hours and realistically can't fall asleep again.
How do others do it? I really feel like a zombie most of the time. I'm just so tired. Recently my husband and I had a special night out and I was falling asleep at our $170 dinner, to the point that we just had to leave with no dessert etc. I did not think that one child was a walk in the park but this is a whole other level. The only thing I can really think of doing is just getting a hotel room for myself every once in a while, but this does not seem like a realistic long term solution. |
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| Oh and I should say, we do get babysitters semi regularly to go out to dinner and that kind of thing. However, I would rather have the babysitter to sleep.. but I have no where to sleep! |
Anonymous
| how's your iron levels? I was irrationally tired, and taking a supplement served as a mood booster |
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I don't know. Good question. Can I get them tested? |
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| Check your iron and b12 levels. I sleep 10/11 to 6 when my baby wakes up. And I woh and currently single miming it while dh is overseas. I do take naps on weekends when the baby naps and that helps. I also try to go to bed at 8:04 a couple times a week. It's hard to work on less sleep. Can your husband take them out of the house for bagels or a walk on Sunday am? Every week I go to a diner or a bagel place with dd and it's all dads with kids from 7-9am. |
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Of course. Go to your doctor and get a panel workup and mention both. |
Anonymous
+1 I've struggled with low iron and when I don't take a supplement it's hard to function. I almost take a B12 supplement in the afternoon and that helps with the energy I need for dinner/bedtime with my toddler. Also, accept that you're a person who needs a lot of rest and there's nothing wrong with that (barring medical issues of course). |
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| If you have the money, spend a night or two at a hotel. Single mom here. My mom gave me a night at a hotel for my birthday when my son was a baby and it was awesome. |
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| I've been there. I remember seriously considering feigning sickness so that I could go to the hospital and try to get admitted in hopes of sleeping. Crazy. |
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| Can you simply go to bed earlier? What time does your husband get home? Why can't he offer more chances for you to sleep in? What time are the kids going to bed? |
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Check your iron and Vit D. Postnatal depletion is real. After correcting those I felt a ton better.
You could check out adrenal fatigue supplements also, Gaia herbal (they have at WFs). Also, box fan for white noise and ear plugs. That's helped me a ton...never discovered it with my first, but am so much better rested with the second. Ask the nanny to come earlier for a while so you can sleep in til you catch up. |
Anonymous
+1. Try going to bed at 9:00-9:30 for a week. Every other Saturday, have DH take the kids out to breakfast while you sleep in. Get a hotel room once every few months. |
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It's true that a night at a hotel isn't a good long-term solution, but things can really look different even after a couple nights of really good sleep.
Can you plan a local weekend away? |
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| Are you pregnant? This is me right now I fell asleep this afternoon beside one of my kids while he binge watched pbs app for almost 2 hours. |
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Go to bed earlier.
During that stage I was in bed by 9. Put the kids to bed, go to bed. Then you can do an occasional date night as long as you are home by 10. My kids are morning people--sleeping past 6 USA pipe dream but now they don't wake up at night I go to bed at 9:30-10. |