Put my foot in my mouth

[Anonymous]

I was the my In Law's house earlier and they were discussing a relative being on a sex offender's list. Here is that converstion.
Me: Oh wow. When did that happen.
SIL: Year ago.
Me: How old was the girl?
SIL: Like 15.
Me: How old was he?
SIL: IDK in his twenties. They were in a relationship. She was plenty old enough to know what she was doing.
Me: I don't agree. To me, that's not ok.
SIL's Husband: Hey, watch what you say. Your SIL was 13 and I was 18 when we began dating.
Me: but
SIL's husband: Watch it.
Me: Let me finish. When you say in his twenties..I think like 25. Not barely 20.
They still seemed pretty hurt. How do I make this right? I feel so bad that I hurt their feelings. I told them there was a big deal between 20 and 25 and that needed to be distinguished. Advice?

[Anonymous]

Whatever don't need to fix it, SIL dh was creepy AF for dating a 13 y/o.

[Anonymous]

Pp here - and he would be on the registry had anyone caught him.

[Anonymous]

They can be hurt all they want. 15 and 20 is a significant (and in many states, illegal) age difference.

13 and 18?!?! That's just wrong. I can't even. It's completely W-R-O-N-G.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pp here - and he would be on the registry had anyone caught him.

They didn't have sex and I believe them. This won't make anyone decide to love him but here I how I know. SIL gave me a phone she had from when she was 17. On it were a bunch of texts of her now husband threatening to break up with her because they had been together 4 years and she wouldn't have sex with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They can be hurt all they want. 15 and 20 is a significant (and in many states, illegal) age difference.

13 and 18?!?! That's just wrong. I can't even. It's completely W-R-O-N-G.

OP here and I agree. While I agree, it's not my business and I didn't mean to insult them. Trust me, I question her parent's judgement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They can be hurt all they want. 15 and 20 is a significant (and in many states, illegal) age difference.

13 and 18?!?! That's just wrong. I can't even. It's completely W-R-O-N-G.

That's downright creepy

[Anonymous]

If it really went like that you knew you were putting your foot in your mouth because he told you when he said, watch it.
Which, actually, is bullying, you get to say what you want, and I probably would have finished too, but you had to know you were approaching the danger zone here.
Forget about it. can't do anything now. and if you really feel sad that you hurt them, pay attention when people tell you you're about to put your foot in your mouth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If it really went like that you knew you were putting your foot in your mouth because he told you when he said, watch it.
Which, actually, is bullying, you get to say what you want, and I probably would have finished too, but you had to know you were approaching the danger zone here.
Forget about it. can't do anything now. and if you really feel sad that you hurt them, pay attention when people tell you you're about to put your foot in your mouth.

He said watch it AFTER I put my foot in my mouth. He was letting me know he was mad. I only continued to explain that when she said in his twenties I assumed like 25 and not barely 20.

[Anonymous]

When someone says "watch it", you STOP WHAT YOU'RE DOING.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When someone says "watch it", you STOP WHAT YOU'RE DOING.

I did. I said it before he said it. All I said after was that I thought they were talking much older.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They can be hurt all they want. 15 and 20 is a significant (and in many states, illegal) age difference.

13 and 18?!?! That's just wrong. I can't even. It's completely W-R-O-N-G.

That's downright creepy

EEEWW. I would kill any adult male who is 18 if they came near my 13 year old daughter. Sorry. Maybe if she were 18, then 23 might be ok. My daughter will be in 7th grade when she's 13 (fall birthday). Signed, disgusted mom.

[Anonymous]

When someone says watch it you finish because anyone ballsy enough to try and dictate what others say is an ass who deserves zero respect or courtesy.

[Anonymous]

"Watch it"? He is a bully and a creep. Don't hang around trash, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When someone says "watch it", you STOP WHAT YOU'RE DOING.

Really? Just because someone is intolerant and can't stand hearing the truth, you don't get to speak your truth? That's your world? It sure as hell ain't mine.