Put my foot in my mouth

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Pp here - and he would be on the registry had anyone caught him.

They didn't have sex and I believe them. This won't make anyone decide to love him but here I how I know. SIL gave me a phone she had from when she was 17. On it were a bunch of texts of her now husband threatening to break up with her because they had been together 4 years and she wouldn't have sex with him.

That doesn't make it any better. He was bullying his girlfriend who was 13 when they started dating. She's never had a normal relationship - and he's probably abusive.

Yeah, that kind of makes it worse, actually. I wouldn't feel bad about hurting his feelings. He's a jerk and a creep.

+1. The type of guy that seeks out a relationship with someone significantly younger than himself is typically the type of guy that wants someone to control. This is even more true when the the person he is pursuing is a minor. The texts just prove it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Watch it"? He is a bully and a creep. Don't hang around trash, OP.

+1. The only inappropriate thing about the conversation is that your BIL told you to Watch It.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When someone says "watch it", you STOP WHAT YOU'RE DOING.

Seriously? I'm a grown adult. When someone says "watch it" to me, I either internally or externally tell them to fuck off, depending on which feels better. OP is an adult, not their kid. Although I see that BIL apparently has trouble understanding ages and stages as it is....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When someone says "watch it", you STOP WHAT YOU'RE DOING.

I disagree. She should be allowed to express her opinion in a respectful way which she sounded she was doing. Personally, I agree with you op and I don't think you need to do anything!

[Anonymous]

NP. The guy sound like a creep. I wouldn't have anything to do with him.

[Anonymous]

NP with a different perspective. I think the BIL was incorrect in the way he did it but he was clearly trying to warn off OP from a subject that was sensitive to both SIL and BIL. I think OP was more interested in expressing her opinion than she was in respecting other peoples' sensitivities.

Note that I am not saying that the relationship between BIL and SIL at 18 and 13 was okay.

I am saying that at their current ages, BIL and SIL seem super sensitive about the subject (which indicates to me that they know others don't approve), and it would have been more respectful for OP to drop the subject immediately. And especially by the time the BIL got to "watch it".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When someone says watch it you finish because anyone ballsy enough to try and dictate what others say is an ass who deserves zero respect or courtesy.

Really? I would have just backed off. My opinion is not so important that everyone needs to know it about every little thing. If OP intended to have a good relationship, or even a cordial one, with her in-laws, keeping mum with an opinion no one needs to hear would be a good start.

[Anonymous]

Ew you were not wrong

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Watch it"? He is a bully and a creep. Don't hang around trash, OP.

+1. The only inappropriate thing about the conversation is that your BIL told you to Watch It.

they are bullies and over-sensitive.
you said completely normal, generic things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was the my In Law's house earlier and they were discussing a relative being on a sex offender's list. Here is that converstion.
Me: Oh wow. When did that happen.
SIL: Year ago.
Me: How old was the girl?
SIL: Like 15.
Me: How old was he?
SIL: IDK in his twenties. They were in a relationship. She was plenty old enough to know what she was doing.
Me: I don't agree. To me, that's not ok.
SIL's Husband: Hey, watch what you say. Your SIL was 13 and I was 18 when we began dating.
Me: but
SIL's husband: Watch it.
Me: Let me finish. When you say in his twenties..I think like 25. Not barely 20.
They still seemed pretty hurt. How do I make this right? I feel so bad that I hurt their feelings. I told them there was a big deal between 20 and 25 and that needed to be distinguished. Advice?

F*** THEM!
A 13 yr old dating an 18 yr old is not kosher, it is illegal and immoral and I'll be damn if I am going to say it's ok to try to appease the feelings of the freaks who co-sign on that ignorant $hit

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:They can be hurt all they want. 15 and 20 is a significant (and in many states, illegal) age difference.

13 and 18?!?! That's just wrong. I can't even. It's completely W-R-O-N-G.

OP here and I agree. While I agree, it's not my business and I didn't mean to insult them. Trust me, I question her parent's judgement.

WHY ARE WORRIED ABOUT A GROWN ASS MAN WHO WAS DATING A CHILD?
WHY?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They can be hurt all they want. 15 and 20 is a significant (and in many states, illegal) age difference.

13 and 18?!?! That's just wrong. I can't even. It's completely W-R-O-N-G.

That's downright creepy

EEEWW. I would kill any adult male who is 18 if they came near my 13 year old daughter. Sorry. Maybe if she were 18, then 23 might be ok. My daughter will be in 7th grade when she's 13 (fall birthday). Signed, disgusted mom.

+1000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000
And when he told you to watch it -- you should have said, 'WHY??"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP with a different perspective. I think the BIL was incorrect in the way he did it but he was clearly trying to warn off OP from a subject that was sensitive to both SIL and BIL. I think OP was more interested in expressing her opinion than she was in respecting other peoples' sensitivities.

Note that I am not saying that the relationship between BIL and SIL at 18 and 13 was okay.

I am saying that at their current ages, BIL and SIL seem super sensitive about the subject (which indicates to me that they know others don't approve), and it would have been more respectful for OP to drop the subject immediately. And especially by the time the BIL got to "watch it".

you are crazy as BIL. The topic was NOT ABOUT BIL, it was about ANOTHER sex offender in the family. Just because someone is "sensitive" about their dysfunction and illegal behaviour doesn't make that the rules of engagement for the sane people in the room.

[Anonymous]

These creepy m******* would not be anywhere near my kids...their judgement and allegiance is HORRIBLE.