Would you call the mom?

[Anonymous]

12year old DD was at a sleepover party and one of the other girls pulls out her phone and shows the others porn videos and a porn site she's been on. They're 12! I feel like I should call the mom but don't really know her that well. WWYD?

[Anonymous]

Did your DD report this to you? Or did you hear it from another source?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:12year old DD was at a sleepover party and one of the other girls pulls out her phone and shows the others porn videos and a porn site she's been on. They're 12! I feel like I should call the mom but don't really know her that well. WWYD?

Yikes. You will probably get varied responses, but I would call the mom--not because of judgement or outrage, but out of concern. I would want to know if I was her mother.

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

If DD reported this to me, I would call the other mother. I would start by saying, "I'm sharing this information with you because I would want someone to do the same for me. My daughter reported that the girls were looking at a pornography site on your daughter's phone at Larla's party last night. I don't know whether this is true of not. I just know that if my child was watching pornography, whether on her own phone or someone else's, I would want to know."

[Anonymous]

Please call. That is not OK in my house, and I would want to know, for my son AND my daughter.

[Anonymous]

I dont really think its a huge deal. 12 year olds look at porn. I can remember in the early 90s waiting for our AOL dial up to connect so we could type in "hard penis" in the search engine. We weren't pervy or "bad" or anything…just 12 and curious.

[Anonymous]

YES! 1000 times Yes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If DD reported this to me, I would call the other mother. I would start by saying, "I'm sharing this information with you because I would want someone to do the same for me. My daughter reported that the girls were looking at a pornography site on your daughter's phone at Larla's party last night. I don't know whether this is true of not. I just know that if my child was watching pornography, whether on her own phone or someone else's, I would want to know."

+1

[Anonymous]

I'd like to know just so I could discuss it with my kid. Not because I think it's bad, but just kind of to have a talk about how some of the stuff is fake, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If DD reported this to me, I would call the other mother. I would start by saying, "I'm sharing this information with you because I would want someone to do the same for me. My daughter reported that the girls were looking at a pornography site on your daughter's phone at Larla's party last night. I don't know whether this is true of not. I just know that if my child was watching pornography, whether on her own phone or someone else's, I would want to know."

+1

+2. I would want to know.

[Anonymous]

I guess you should tell her. But if your DD didn't look at it, and she is ok then maybe leave it a few days and think about it.

I went for a sleepover when I was 13 and my friend put on the Playboy channel around midnight. I was stunned. (obviously her dad subscribed).

We were caught because her mom had passed out (drunk) on a sofa in the next room and it woke her.

[Anonymous]

As much as I would want to know if it were my daughter, I would probably keep my mouth shut. We had a situation backfire on my son. Another kid's bad behavior led my son to be ousted from the group. I was not involved, except through what my son told me. Before I said anything I would make damned sure my daughter wouldn't pay for me "doing the right thing"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If DD reported this to me, I would call the other mother. I would start by saying, "I'm sharing this information with you because I would want someone to do the same for me. My daughter reported that the girls were looking at a pornography site on your daughter's phone at Larla's party last night. I don't know whether this is true of not. I just know that if my child was watching pornography, whether on her own phone or someone else's, I would want to know."

+3
-mom of an 11 yr old

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As much as I would want to know if it were my daughter, I would probably keep my mouth shut. We had a situation backfire on my son. Another kid's bad behavior led my son to be ousted from the group. I was not involved, except through what my son told me. Before I said anything I would make damned sure my daughter wouldn't pay for me "doing the right thing"

I agree, talk to your kid but stay out of it.