+1, I feel agnostic about OP's specific situation because I just don't think I have enough info either way to say if the other women were being exclusive or she was overreacting. I do think her text was poor form, but if the other women behaved in a very obnoxious way, I might empathize with the hurt she was feeling that should lead her to send the text. But again, no idea. It's strange to me how many people on this thread (or maybe it just a few people posting a lot, I don't know) have these very strong, definitive opinions on the matter, either that any accusation of a clique or exclusive behavior is automatically false, or conversely that if you don't invite everyone you know to every event, you are in a clique. It's obviously not one or the other. I've definitely dealt with exclusive or clique-y women in my life, including a little clique at my child's elementary school. But generally my annoyance with cliques is not "why won't they include me" but when the clique impacts other aspects of my life. I don't want to be friends with people who don't want to be friends with me, but a clique can be really frustrating if its hoarding resources or blocking access to something I want or need access to. Like I once worked in a place with a very irritating clique that involved several managers, and basically if you were not in that clique, you were never going to get good assignments, move up, or be pulled into decision-making. It sucked and I left that job even though I actually think if I'd tried, they would have let me into the clique. I just think that's an unethical way to run an organization and I don't want to have to socialize with people in my free time in order to be treated fairly at work. |
The "misunderstands" is fine, but the "hates". Really? Call it "shame" if you want, but sometimes people need to be called out to take a moment and think about it. |
Sorry the post trying to get women to hate on other women was a flop. OP was rightfully called out in it. |
I don't think this thread was about hating on other women, it was about sharing experiences with feeling excluded from a group. The amount of hate direct at OP on this thread was a multitude more than the frankly minor judgment she issued about these women she knows getting together without her. |
Get over it. Many people didn't come to the same conclusion as you and were called alcoholics amongst other insults. You can get down off the cross now. Your hands aren't clean. |
Wut. |
Simple. The b-itches who attacked the OP are mad that the tables turned on them. |
She didnt say she felt excluded and sad or anything about sharing times others have felt excluded. She says, “LMAO.Share your favorite mom clique story” That pretty much sounds like looking to make fun of others to me |
I'm NOT team OP. I think her assumptions were entirely off-base, those women are not a clique and did not exclude her, and her text was ridiculous verging on unhinged. But I don't think the post was misogynistic and I don't really think she wanted to make fun of people for sh*ts and giggles. I think in her mind she truly believes she was excluded and wanted an echo chamber to make herself feel better. |
You are personalizing this thread to a degree that honestly makes me concerned for your mental well being. None of us even know each other and all the posts are anonymous. This is so weird. |
Except you're a massive hypocrite and look foolish the more you repeat yourself. |
Nice projection! |
Agree. It’s been kooko The over explaining was especially nutso. |
+2 |
But you would say WHY you were gathered right? “hi Susan! Good to see you. We’re planning a kid’s funeral. See you at spin on Wednesday.” |