How to keep from feeling embarrased when you get rejected by DH/DW?

[Anonymous]

Following the sexting thread, do you feel embarrassed if your DW/DH rejects your sexual advance when trying something new? DW here and I get incredibly embarrassed sometimes when my dirty talk or offer for BJ gets rejected. My ears and cheeks feel flush and I kinda just want to hide under the covers. Usually only feel this way when I am being overtly sexual and get rejected. Do others feel the same way or just me? Any way to get past this feeling? It usually lingers for the rest of the day and I hate feeling embarrassed.

[Anonymous]

Every time you get rejected respond with "Well I guess we will just end up like your fat, alcoholic divorced parents".

[Anonymous]

Have sex with your neighbor instead. He could be your soulmate

[Anonymous]

I used to. Then I had a real conversation about it and now if it doesnt happen, I'm fine with it. That said, we have a great sex life (3-4 times a week) and it's not a ton that he turns me down.

[Anonymous]

Shoot his @ss

[Anonymous]

It gets easier every time it happens

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I used to. Then I had a real conversation about it and now if it doesnt happen, I'm fine with it. That said, we have a great sex life (3-4 times a week) and it's not a ton that he turns me down.

What kind of comversation? How did you broach the subject? I dont want to make him feel like he is doing anything wrong.

[Anonymous]

My husband had never once rejected my sexual advances. He's happy for any sort of initiation from me. If i told him putting on a fur suit turned me on, he would have sex with me in a fur suit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband had never once rejected my sexual advances. He's happy for any sort of initiation from me. If i told him putting on a fur suit turned me on, he would have sex with me in a fur suit.

Can you try that and report back?

[Anonymous]

No, why?
Perhaps you grew up in a family that had distinct views on the human body and shame and all that.
Or perhaps your spouse uses a tone that makes you feel that way? In that case, you should have a chat with him.

[Anonymous]

I have never yet rejected an offer of a BJ, but that's just me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have never yet rejected an offer of a BJ, but that's just me.

Has a man ever offered you one?

[Anonymous]

I feel that way, and then just spend time with men who want me. I realize it's him, not me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband had never once rejected my sexual advances. He's happy for any sort of initiation from me. If i told him putting on a fur suit turned me on, he would have sex with me in a fur suit.

You must be young.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I used to. Then I had a real conversation about it and now if it doesnt happen, I'm fine with it. That said, we have a great sex life (3-4 times a week) and it's not a ton that he turns me down.

My husband turns me down about half the time, and we have sex 3-4 times a month.