Am I being a bitch?

[Anonymous]

My husband works full-time, and I work part-time plus take care the majority of life's choirs. My husband has a bad habit of going in my purse, which annoys me to know end. I will go to the store and find I have no money or credit card because he has gone in my purse and taken it, etc. I find going in my purse to be an invasion of my privacy and have mentioned it multiple times. This latest time he went in my purse and took out my daughters passport. I had it in my purse because I had to take her to the doctor, and couldn't find her insurance card and the doctor needed id to take her without the card. When I got there I realized my husband took it out of my purse and we had to reschedule her appointment. I told him he would need to take her to the next appointment. He says he is busy with work and I'm being unreasonable and selfish, since I have more schedule flexibility. I feel he should do it because he frequently causes me to waste my time in the midst of my household "work". For instance trips to the store only to find I have no way to pay because he has my form of payment. I feel my time and work is not being respected. What say you?

[Anonymous]

Why does he take your cc? That's weird. He's being rude and disrespectful.

I'm not usually into tit for tat behavior at all, but I'd be tempted to start raiding his wallet.

Do you share a cc? Are you using his and he's taking it back or is he stealing yours? I can't get past that.

[Anonymous]

NO, you are certainly NOT being a bitch, OP!

[Anonymous]

Is he taking it because he doesn't want you to spend money? Are you a stay at home mom? Do you overspend? I don't get it.

[Anonymous]

OP here. He is taking it to use it. He may take it to make an online purchase when he can't find his wallet, for instance. But will forgot to put it back.

[Anonymous]

Yea, no, he's nuts. Sometimes dh will ask me for cash if he hasn't been to the atm lately, but he'd never just take it and never, ever take all of it! And why does he need your cc? Doesn't he have his own? Why would he take dd's passport?

[Anonymous]

You're not being a bitch at all but why on earth did he take your daughters passport out? He needs to leave your purse alone. DH and I are super relaxed and laid back but this would really irk me. He asks me if he needs cash or keys or anything that would be in my purse

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. He is taking it to use it. He may take it to make an online purchase when he can't find his wallet, for instance. But will forgot to put it back.

A grown man shouldn't lose track of his wallet. How disorganized is he?

[Anonymous]

I'd get a big ole box with a lock, and start keeping my purse in there. No one goes in moms purse without permission. I thought everyone knew that!

[Anonymous]

Definitely fake. No doc requires a passport.

[Anonymous]

Making him take your daughter is being vindictive. You want him to "pay" for his offenses, so that he'll learn. You're right to feel like he's not respecting your time or your feelings, and he's clearly in the wrong for continuing to do something he knows causes you frustration. This is something, however, that you two need to talk about and resolve, not just start doling out punishments.

Does he have a designated spot for his wallet?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd get a big ole box with a lock, and start keeping my purse in there. No one goes in moms purse without permission. I thought everyone knew that!

+1 Your DH is disrespecting you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Making him take your daughter is being vindictive. You want him to "pay" for his offenses, so that he'll learn. You're right to feel like he's not respecting your time or your feelings, and he's clearly in the wrong for continuing to do something he knows causes you frustration. This is something, however, that you two need to talk about and resolve, not just start doling out punishments.

Does he have a designated spot for his wallet?

OP here. It's not that I want him to pay, its that I don't want to have to pay. I have stuff I need to be doing with my time, instead of doing errands twice because he can't stay out of my purse.

[Anonymous]

Oh no! Not the inviolable purse! Do you ever violate and "disrespect" any of his private possessions by rummaging through them when you need anything? Wallet, computer, phone, mail, desk?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh no! Not the inviolable purse! Do you ever violate and "disrespect" any of his private possessions by rummaging through them when you need anything? Wallet, computer, phone, mail, desk?

Didnyou read the OP. It's not like he's getting a stick of gum. He's taking her credit card because he loses his and a) not replacing it, b) not asking or even telling her, and c) leaving her inconvenienced without money while trying to manage a household.