Almost to the finish line....and so miserable

[Anonymous]

I haven't had a particularly easy pregnancy, and I'm due in a few weeks. I'm SO miserable. I feel like I'm walking around in a haze all the time because I haven't slept through the night in a month or 6 weeks. I wake up to go to the bathroom every 2 hours like clockwork. All I want to do is lay on the couch and nap, and I've barely been out socially in the last few months. I really can't bring myself to care about anything other than this baby, sleeping, and eating. And of course, I dearly wish I could just stop working now, but I only have so much leave (mostly self funded, wooo) and I really need to save it for after baby is born. I know I'm not the only woman who has been in this situation, but this sucks so much. Also, no DH in the picture for me, so I don't have anyone at home that can pick up the slack on groceries or anything else for that matter.

[Anonymous]

That stinks. Can you order groceries/amazon/etc? Get a prenatal or foot massage? Also at work, start working on your transition so it gives you something to focus on.

Hugs. I know exactly how you feel.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry- the last weeks feel endless, and I say that as someone who delivered at 36 weeks so I cannot even imagine going all the way to the end. And also hard that you have no help. Here's hoping you have a smooth (and on-time) delivery.

[Anonymous]

So familiar! I was cranky, hungry and didn't know what I wanted to eat, and just wanted to binge watch cooking shows. I was able to take 30 min naps at 2pm and that made a big difference (happen to live close to work and would take a late lunch.) I also ended up taking a sick day every other week for the last month. If you have daycare lined up it might be worth it to go ahead and use some leave now, or ask if you can cutback hours with unpaid leave. Even 4 hours a week makes a big difference. Also, if you can afford it, plan to start daycare earlier (before you go back to work) and use that time to catch up on rest. In some ways that last month of pregnancy was harder for me than having a newborn, because I was so uncomfortable and tired. I also asked for and got an extra day of teleworking, which I wish I had asked for sooner, all they can do is say no. Good luck and it really does get better!

[Anonymous]

Any friends or family that can help?

[Anonymous]

I'm not saying this to derail the thread, because it sounds like you're going through a lot, but after my recent miscarriage I would love to be in your shoes. Maybe some perspective will help power you through the next couple weeks/months. You've got this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not saying this to derail the thread, because it sounds like you're going through a lot, but after my recent miscarriage I would love to be in your shoes. Maybe some perspective will help power you through the next couple weeks/months. You've got this.

Yeah, not helpful. I had a still birth. I was still miserable the last few weeks of my next pregnancy. I was grateful to be pregnant. Happy the baby was healthy. But so so miserable. The peeing every 1-2 hours, round the clock about killed me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not saying this to derail the thread, because it sounds like you're going through a lot, but after my recent miscarriage I would love to be in your shoes. Maybe some perspective will help power you through the next couple weeks/months. You've got this.

OP here. This isn't helpful at all. I actually can't understand the people with miscarriages/trouble conceiving that pop up on the expectant and postpartum forum talking about how we should just be grateful and they'd love to be in our shoes....there are a few of you and seriously, get out of here. Just because I'm "so lucky" to be pregnant doesn't mean I can't be upset about some of the hard stuff that comes along with it. And also, I bet you're probably married or in a serious relationship? How would you like it if someone said to you, "well, sucks about your miscarriage but at least you have a life partner! Some people don't have that! I hope some perspective helps you power through your grief!"

Thanks pps for all the sympathetic posts. I am going to take some friends up on offers to help this weekend with groceries etc. I would just feel so much better if I could sleep for more than two hours at a time seriously I feel like I'm being tortured.

[Anonymous]

Hey OP, I hear you. On the sleep front, I ended up being prescribed a low dose of Ambien. My midwife said my incredibly poor sleep wasn't sustainable and we needed to get me decent sleep before baby arrived. Totally the right move.

And hugs. The last month sucks. 2 nights before I went into labor I burst into tears, crying "I'm never going to go into labor!" I was so D-O-N-E with pregnancy.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, the last month sucks. Like serious misery that builds and builds...at least with my second, my first was two weeks early so I didn't experience the worst of it.

Anyway, you have some lovely newborn bliss ahead, and it's such a relief not to be pregnant after birth that you will feel like you can do anything. Hang in there!!

[Anonymous]

I thought the last few weeks were fine. What's wrong with you? AMA?

[Anonymous]

The last few weeks of pregnancy are terrible. Hang in there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I thought the last few weeks were fine. What's wrong with you? AMA?

Wow, what a bitchy comment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought the last few weeks were fine. What's wrong with you? AMA?

Wow, what a bitchy comment.

Eh, OP sounds like a bitch herself. I'm sure she can handle it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not saying this to derail the thread, because it sounds like you're going through a lot, but after my recent miscarriage I would love to be in your shoes. Maybe some perspective will help power you through the next couple weeks/months. You've got this.

OP here. This isn't helpful at all. I actually can't understand the people with miscarriages/trouble conceiving that pop up on the expectant and postpartum forum talking about how we should just be grateful and they'd love to be in our shoes....there are a few of you and seriously, get out of here. Just because I'm "so lucky" to be pregnant doesn't mean I can't be upset about some of the hard stuff that comes along with it. And also, I bet you're probably married or in a serious relationship? How would you like it if someone said to you, "well, sucks about your miscarriage but at least you have a life partner! Some people don't have that! I hope some perspective helps you power through your grief!"

Thanks pps for all the sympathetic posts. I am going to take some friends up on offers to help this weekend with groceries etc. I would just feel so much better if I could sleep for more than two hours at a time seriously I feel like I'm being tortured.

yep, but you only have yourself to blame, op, does that help at all?